I want you to think about being "needy."
That's right: BE NEEDY.
Okay, let me explain.
Truth? Do you like being called "needy?"
I doubt it. No one I know relishes
the thought of being called "needy."
You probably run from being needy.
Think of the last time you felt needy?
Probably a pretty yucky feeling to you, yes?
Maybe even repulsive.
Being needy is associated with
feeling clingy, desperate, overwhelming.
When you feel that 'yucky" needy,
you don't have the bandwidth to be
there for others the way you'd like.
You feel like a big ol' loser.
Or maybe your "yucky" needy shows up
as appearing indifferent, i.e. when your needs pop up
and demand attention, you shut those needs down,
ignoring what is crying out and get determined
to pretend you are "okay."
But you know..somewhere deep inside...
that you are NOT OKAY.
Because YOUR NEEDS ARE NOT BEING MET!
It is time to own NEEDY.
In fact, I believe that it is imperative
That you OWN your neediness...
That you ADMIT you get needy...
That you face the fact that YOU HAVE NEEDS
SO you can GET YOUR NEEDS MET!
See, you only get the yucky "needy" when you ignore
your needs, when you pretend you don't have any,
when you think you are ABOVE having any needs.
I woke up this morning with this thought:
If your life was perfect, you would never have to
need anyone...and if you don't need anyone
than you would never have to feel vulnerable
and expose yourself in any way.
That is fear, my friend.
It is your fear of intimacy, fear of being vulnerable,
fear of being rejected, and hurt and lonely,
that convinces you that you DON'T NEED anyone.
But that is a lie. Lie. Lie. Lie.
It is your very neediness that will give you the
opening, the courage really, to admit
you need more FROM yourself, FROM the ones
you love, FROM LIFE itself.
Because being perfect and in control
takes away your need - your very human need -
to need another, to need the ones you love,
to need the ones that love you.
I need you and you need me.
That is a fact. Period.
Admitting you need another
admitting you NEED LOVE,
you NEED ACCEPTANCE,
you NEED CONNECTION,
you NEED COMPANIONSHIP,
you NEED INTIMACY...
Admitting you are NEEDY,
is the true beginning of experiencing
the love you yearn for - whether it's
love giving you the courage and
fortitude to go for your dreams - or
the love of another so you can finally
lean in and lean back knowing someone
has your back.
Sounds good right?
Someone has your back?
Someone accepts you for you?
Someone cares about your dreams?
When you admit you are NEEDY,
you can GET YOUR NEEDS MET.
Without admitting you are needy,
YOU CANNOT GET THEM MET.
And you, as a human, have needs.
When you admit you are needy...
your humility increases
your ability to give and receive compassion increases
your experience of intimacy is expanded
and you gain the love, admiration and acceptance
I'm human. I figure you are too.
And until I am dead, (and I have a
sneaky suspicion it won't change in heaven),
I need love. Yes, I NEED LOVE.
And so do you.
Will you admit, at least to yourself,
that you NEED LOVE,
NEED ACCEPTANCE, NEED CARE,
and TENDERNESS and HEART-FELT
I do. I raise my hand now.
I need you to be YOU.
God needs you to be YOU!
The world needs you to be YOU!
And you have needs. Admit it.
So you can get them met.
Here's to healthy neediness!
From one needy human to another....