What to Do When You Feel Stuck in a Relationship

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Do you feel stuck? Do you feel trapped? Do you feel unhappy in your relationship? Do you feel like you’re in the wrong relationship? Feeling stuck in a relationship can hold you back in far more ways than you may realize.

You may not even know your relationships are causing you to feel stuck because you’ve been following the same patterns for such a long time. What does it mean to feel stuck in a relationship? Well, are your needs being met, and are you getting value out of the relationship?

Ask yourself these questions:

Do you feel valued in your relationship?

Do you feel happier after seeing your partner?

Do you feel supported in all of your dreams and endeavors?

Do you spend quality time together?

Does your partner make you feel like the best version of yourself?

Does your partner take interest in your interests?

Does your partner ask you questions about yourself?

Stressed woman with hands on face in bad relationship

No relationship is perfect, but at the very least, your relationships should make you feel better, not worse, and they shouldn’t hold you back from living the life your soul intended.™

Here, and in other sections of this article, I focus on romantic partnerships, but all of the tips and strategies I am going to share can be applied to any relationship. You might feel stuck in a friendship that isn’t working anymore, and many, many people feel stuck in familial relationships, even when those relationships are toxic.

Feeling trapped is fear’s handiwork. Fear makes us think that we have no choice but to continue in the same relationships and on the same path. Fear keeps us stuck where we are, even when there’s a clear and better path forward.

So, how do you get unstuck in a relationship? Today, I’m sharing seven strategies that will help you get unstuck in your relationships. These tips will either help you build on and improve your current relationship or help you move on from the toxic relationships that, unfortunately, can't be fixed.

Let’s get started.

What to Do When You're Feeling Stuck in a Relationship

1. Take a Step Back From the Situation

When we’re in the thick of things, it’s pretty darn tough to look at a situation and evaluate it objectively. This is true of any situation, and it’s doubly, quadruply, exponentially true when we feel stuck in a relationship. Our relationships are emotional powder kegs, and this can work both for us and against us.

So, in order to take a birdseye, objective view of your relationship, I encourage you to take a step back. Reflect on your relationship from a neutral point of view. For a few private moments, don’t allow your emotions to cloud your perspective or judgment. Why do you feel stuck in your relationship? What is preventing you from moving forward? What, precisely, is causing you to feel stagnant or uninspired?

It could be that you’re unhappy with the way your partner treats you, your needs might not be being met, or you may feel like you haven’t matured or evolved or learned anything in a long time. You may feel like your partner is holding you back from experiencing new things or making progress on your own self-development.

It could be any or all of these things, but you won’t know until you take time to reflect on your feelings. Take some time by yourself to process your feelings and trace them back to their source. If you find this task difficult, try this: Consider how you would feel if one of your loved ones came to you and described the same problems happening in their relationship. Would you want them to stand up for themselves? Would you encourage them to make changes? Would you suggest they end the relationship?

2. Communicate Openly and Honestly older couple in cafe open communication

Don’t only express your true feelings to yourself; communicate openly and honestly with the other person in the relationship.

I know—it’s so much easier to push our feelings down and try to ignore them. “Get out of the way, you pesky feelings; I’m trying to live my life!” But our feelings are there to let us know when something is working and when something isn’t.

Open, honest communication is vital to any healthy relationship, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. And when we feel stuck in a rut, this kind of communication becomes all the more difficult because it’s easier to avoid bringing up the issues that are causing friction. It’s so much easier to turn on a sitcom or reality television show and share a laugh about everyone else’s issues. “Look at them expressing their emotions and being vulnerable. Aren’t they so silly and immature? Why haven’t they learned to bottle up their emotions like us?” 

But staying stuck in a relationship is usually because of decisions like those—choosing to sit in front of the television or behind a book instead of expressing your true feelings, concerns, and needs. Keeping yourself guarded and pretending your vulnerability doesn’t exist will keep you stuck.

So I encourage you to make an effort to be vulnerable. Be honest. Share how you’re feeling. The health of your relationship depends on it. Tell your partner what your needs are. What do you need from your relationship that you’re not getting?

I know what you’re probably thinking. “Rhonda, we’ve been in a relationship for years. How do they not already know what my needs are? Haven’t they figured it out yet? How much longer is it going to take?”

I know exactly how you feel because I was where you are. I had that exact same thought process. I didn’t know how to express my needs. Heck, I barely even understood what my own needs were! I thought my partner should just know what I needed. Isn’t that what a healthy relationship is? Someone coming into your life who understands you implicitly and gets you what you need to be happy?

But, as you may have figured out, that’s not quite the way it works. It’s unfair to the other person in the relationship to expect them to simply understand everything that’s in your mind, heart, and soul without being told.

Getting your needs met is essential to your health and wellbeing, and it’s essential to the health of your relationship. If you’re not ensuring your needs are being met, your relationship will suffer. So, how do you get your needs met?

You guessed it: It all starts with communicating openly and honestly with the other person in the relationship.

I know this can make us feel vulnerable, and I know being vulnerable is scary. You may, like so many of us out there, even feel that being vulnerable is being weak. But that’s fear talking. Fear doesn’t want your needs to be met. Fear wants you to be stuck.

Being vulnerable is actually being brave; you’re showing your strength. You’re not shying away from the challenge. Speaking up and being honest and open means you’re rising to the occasion and taking your power back. Instead of riding in the back of the bus and wondering if the bus driver will remember your stop, you’re stepping into the driver’s seat.

3. Ask Yourself: Are You Adding to the Issues?

It’s easy to blame the other person for the relationship’s issues. But remember—it takes two to tango. Are you adding to the problems? What do you do that makes the situation worse? When was the last time you fulfilled your partner’s needs? Do you know what their needs are? Have you ever asked?

You are the other half of the relationship, and it’s important to own this fact. Take some time to yourself and deeply consider how you treat people.

Your needs and your personal boundaries are so, so, SO important. But they’re no more important than the needs of the other person. Are you neglecting their needs? Are you crossing their boundaries?

Do you regularly criticize your partner in front of their friends or family? How often do you criticize them in private? Do you dismiss your son’s dream of being a musician simply because it looks different than the future you planned for him? Do you automatically shut out your sister from making the Christmas turkey because she undercooked it 10 years ago? How often do you complain to your partner about this, that, or the other thing? Are you really listening when they speak? Do you ever lie to your partner?

It’s natural to have different needs and wants in a relationship; after all, you’re not the same person. You’re two individuals who (hopefully!) love and respect each other and who have come together to bring a little happiness and support into each other’s lives. You each have separate needs, but when we feel stuck, it’s very easy to forget about the other person’s needs and only focus on our own perspective.

How can you find common ground? Are you making the situation worse? Are you the toxic one in the relationship? In order to get unstuck, you must remember to put aside your ego and consider your own toxic actions and behavior.

4. Prioritize Self-Love and Self-Care

happy smiling woman holding hugging herself

Yes, I encourage you to take a deep look at yourself and consider how you’re negatively contributing to your relationship, but I am not suggesting you sit in your feelings of guilt, believing yourself to be a “bad person” because you’ve made mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. Your partner makes them. And heck, you better believe I’ve made my fair share of blunders too! 🙋‍♀️

Do not punish yourself, and do not take all of the blame. There’s plenty to go around! We’re not playing the blame game—we’re focusing on self-improvement, and you can’t improve without self-love and self-care.

You must, must, MUST take care of yourself. If you don’t take care of yourself first, you can’t hope to effectively take care of anyone else. Is it possible you feel stuck because you’re always participating in activities or eating food or watching movies your partner likes, but you don’t? How often do you spend time doing the things you like to do? How often do you spend time alone doing whatever you want to do?

Whether you want to continue in the relationship or not, you must prioritize self-love and taking time for yourself. Make time to do the things that make you happy. Focusing on your own self-care is not selfish—it’s absolutely necessary for your emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual health.

Can’t think of a self-care activity? Here are a few examples of what you can do:

  • Read a book under a blanket with some tea and honey
  • Tend a garden
  • Treat yourself to a mani, pedi, or facial
  • Sleep on your favorite sheets
  • Meditate
  • Try yoga
  • Exercise
  • Write in your journal and keep a diary
  • Work on an art project
  • Have a hot bath surrounded by lots of bubbles and scented candles
  • Go for a walk and pay attention to your surroundings
  • Watch the birds outside your window
  • Cook your favorite meal
  • Do anything that makes you feel HAPPY and HEALTHY!

“Acts of self-care are acts of self-love.” - Rhonda Britten

You must show yourself compassion, and taking time for yourself to do the things that bring you joy is doing just that. A loving, honest, evolving relationship will always be out of reach if you do not first prioritize self-love. You have to love yourself before you are truly able to accept anyone else’s love. It took me a very long time to realize this!

I have so much to say about self-love. Once you’re done here, I encourage you to check out my guide on loving yourself: How To Love Yourself: 7 Self-Love Tips You’ll Love.

It’s very possible you feel stuck because you aren’t making time for acts of self-care and self-love. While it may feel like you don’t have time in your schedule to prioritize these things, remember that you’re in the driver’s seat. This is your car—this is YOUR LIFE. Only you can control your own life. This brings us to my next point!

5. Focus on What You Can Control

While it’s easy to blame your feelings of stuckness on your partner, here’s the truth: You are responsible for your own happiness.

We often get so caught up in what we can't control that we forget about the things we do have control over. But at the end of the day, no matter how stuck you might feel in your relationship, there is plenty within your control.

You can’t control what the other person in the relationship does. You can’t control what the other person says. BUT you can control your actions. You can control what you say. You can control whether or not you express your needs. And you can control whether or not you stay in a relationship if you realize it has become toxic or one-sided.

Your partner is not in control of your happiness or whether or not you feel stuck. There are so many aspects of your life and relationships that are within your control to change, evolve, and improve. Small steps toward living fearlessly can make a huge difference to the quality of your life. You have control over understanding your own needs. You have control over ensuring you practice self-care. You have control over your own self-love and self-trust.

I bet once you begin taking care of all of those things that are within your control, you won’t feel quite so stuck anymore. A huge part of feeling stuck is feeling powerless. You don’t know the next steps you should take. By recognizing what is and what isn’t in your control, you can begin to take thoughtful, effective steps forward—and get unstuck!

6. Surround Yourself With Support

Concept of support - man and woman holding hands in the room

A strong support network is vital when you’re going through difficult times. Unfortunately, we can often withdraw from our social circle when we feel stuck and unhappy in our relationship. You may fear being judged, you may fear being perceived as a failure, or you may want to avoid being a burden, but it’s during these challenging times that it’s most important to lean on your trusted friends and family members. They are an invaluable source of emotional support. You would be there for your friends and family members if they needed you; allow them to be there for you too.

The Fearless Living community can be just what you need when you are feeling stuck. Fearless Living is filled with like-minded people who have been right where you are. They can lend an ear if you need to vent, share their own stories, or simply tell you everything is going to be okay. Because it absolutely will. You will make it through this, and you will be even stronger and more fearless for it.

Fear is terrible at giving advice; don’t let fear keep you from speaking to the people you trust about what’s really going on. Reach out to your friends, family, or community to ask for their advice and support as you figure out the next steps to take in your relationship.

7. It May Be Time to Leave a Toxic Relationship

Not every relationship is destined to work out. Ask yourself, how often does the other person complain, not just about you, but about anything and everything? How often do they criticize you and put you down? Do they ever ask you about yourself and how you’re doing? Do you feel better after interacting with them or worse? How often do they ask for or demand things you’ve made it clear you’re not comfortable with? Have you experienced emotional abuse, physical abuse, or domestic violence of any kind?

If you said yes to any of the above, it’s a clear sign your relationship is toxic. Learn more from my guide: How to Move on From a Toxic Relationship (And How to Recognize One). I break down the differences between healthy and unhappy relationships and share what you can do to break free from the toxic relationships in your life.

Domestic abuse is never okay. While it is sometimes possible to fix a toxic relationship, it’s very rare, and too many people get stuck trying to fix the unfixable. We want to believe we have control over every aspect of our life, but that’s simply not true. We only have control over our own actions. If your partner refuses to change, it’s time to move on.

While I know that’s a lot easier said than done, it doesn’t make it any less true. If your relationship is toxic, you must end it for your own wellbeing and personal safety. Leaving a relationship with someone who doesn’t treat you well is not a failure; the real tragedy is staying with someone who doesn’t recognize, nurture, and celebrate all of the wonderfulness that makes you you. You are enough just as you are. If the person you’re in a relationship with can’t see that, that is their failure, not yours.

I said before that it takes two to tango. So, if your partner keeps missing all of the steps, stomping on your toes, and taking it out on you, it’s time to leave the dance floor and find a new dance! The same is true of the relationships you have with friends and family members. Toxic relationships of any kind hold you back, hinder your health, stop you from pursuing your dreams, and keep you from living the life your soul intended.™

Until you break free of your toxic relationships, there will always be something holding you back and pulling you back toward everything you fear most.

 

Get Your Relationship Unstuck With Fearless Living 

Getting your relationship unstuck won’t happen overnight. It will take a lot of effort and dedication, as well as a commitment from both of you—but it is possible to fast-track your journey by joining a community of like-minded people at Fearless Living.

Fearless Living is a community of people just like you who are passionate about building strong, healthy relationships that are free from fear and toxicity. My Training Program is based on decades of learning how to crack the secret code to fear. With the Fearless Living program and Fearless You, an online database of dozens of courses, you’ll learn what to do if you feel trapped in a relationship, how to set clear boundaries, how to build your self-esteem and self-worth, and so much more.

From Fear to Freedom
From Fear to Freedom GUIDE topaz enhance sharpen hiresDOWNLOAD GUIDE

Do you feel stuck? Do you feel trapped? Do you feel unhappy in your relationship? Do you feel like you’re in the wrong relationship? Feeling stuck in a relationship can hold you back in far more ways than you may realize.

You may not even know your relationships are causing you to feel stuck because you’ve been following the same patterns for such a long time. What does it mean to feel stuck in a relationship? Well, are your needs being met, and are you getting value out of the relationship?

Ask yourself these questions:

Do you feel valued in your relationship?

Do you feel happier after seeing your partner?

Do you feel supported in all of your dreams and endeavors?

Do you spend quality time together?

Does your partner make you feel like the best version of yourself?

Does your partner take interest in your interests?

Does your partner ask you questions about yourself?

Stressed woman with hands on face in bad relationship

No relationship is perfect, but at the very least, your relationships should make you feel better, not worse, and they shouldn’t hold you back from living the life your soul intended.™

Here, and in other sections of this article, I focus on romantic partnerships, but all of the tips and strategies I am going to share can be applied to any relationship. You might feel stuck in a friendship that isn’t working anymore, and many, many people feel stuck in familial relationships, even when those relationships are toxic.

Feeling trapped is fear’s handiwork. Fear makes us think that we have no choice but to continue in the same relationships and on the same path. Fear keeps us stuck where we are, even when there’s a clear and better path forward.

So, how do you get unstuck in a relationship? Today, I’m sharing seven strategies that will help you get unstuck in your relationships. These tips will either help you build on and improve your current relationship or help you move on from the toxic relationships that, unfortunately, can't be fixed.

Let’s get started.

What to Do When You're Feeling Stuck in a Relationship

1. Take a Step Back From the Situation

When we’re in the thick of things, it’s pretty darn tough to look at a situation and evaluate it objectively. This is true of any situation, and it’s doubly, quadruply, exponentially true when we feel stuck in a relationship. Our relationships are emotional powder kegs, and this can work both for us and against us.

So, in order to take a birdseye, objective view of your relationship, I encourage you to take a step back. Reflect on your relationship from a neutral point of view. For a few private moments, don’t allow your emotions to cloud your perspective or judgment. Why do you feel stuck in your relationship? What is preventing you from moving forward? What, precisely, is causing you to feel stagnant or uninspired?

It could be that you’re unhappy with the way your partner treats you, your needs might not be being met, or you may feel like you haven’t matured or evolved or learned anything in a long time. You may feel like your partner is holding you back from experiencing new things or making progress on your own self-development.

It could be any or all of these things, but you won’t know until you take time to reflect on your feelings. Take some time by yourself to process your feelings and trace them back to their source. If you find this task difficult, try this: Consider how you would feel if one of your loved ones came to you and described the same problems happening in their relationship. Would you want them to stand up for themselves? Would you encourage them to make changes? Would you suggest they end the relationship?

2. Communicate Openly and Honestly older couple in cafe open communication

Don’t only express your true feelings to yourself; communicate openly and honestly with the other person in the relationship.

I know—it’s so much easier to push our feelings down and try to ignore them. “Get out of the way, you pesky feelings; I’m trying to live my life!” But our feelings are there to let us know when something is working and when something isn’t.

Open, honest communication is vital to any healthy relationship, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. And when we feel stuck in a rut, this kind of communication becomes all the more difficult because it’s easier to avoid bringing up the issues that are causing friction. It’s so much easier to turn on a sitcom or reality television show and share a laugh about everyone else’s issues. “Look at them expressing their emotions and being vulnerable. Aren’t they so silly and immature? Why haven’t they learned to bottle up their emotions like us?” 

But staying stuck in a relationship is usually because of decisions like those—choosing to sit in front of the television or behind a book instead of expressing your true feelings, concerns, and needs. Keeping yourself guarded and pretending your vulnerability doesn’t exist will keep you stuck.

So I encourage you to make an effort to be vulnerable. Be honest. Share how you’re feeling. The health of your relationship depends on it. Tell your partner what your needs are. What do you need from your relationship that you’re not getting?

I know what you’re probably thinking. “Rhonda, we’ve been in a relationship for years. How do they not already know what my needs are? Haven’t they figured it out yet? How much longer is it going to take?”

I know exactly how you feel because I was where you are. I had that exact same thought process. I didn’t know how to express my needs. Heck, I barely even understood what my own needs were! I thought my partner should just know what I needed. Isn’t that what a healthy relationship is? Someone coming into your life who understands you implicitly and gets you what you need to be happy?

But, as you may have figured out, that’s not quite the way it works. It’s unfair to the other person in the relationship to expect them to simply understand everything that’s in your mind, heart, and soul without being told.

Getting your needs met is essential to your health and wellbeing, and it’s essential to the health of your relationship. If you’re not ensuring your needs are being met, your relationship will suffer. So, how do you get your needs met?

You guessed it: It all starts with communicating openly and honestly with the other person in the relationship.

I know this can make us feel vulnerable, and I know being vulnerable is scary. You may, like so many of us out there, even feel that being vulnerable is being weak. But that’s fear talking. Fear doesn’t want your needs to be met. Fear wants you to be stuck.

Being vulnerable is actually being brave; you’re showing your strength. You’re not shying away from the challenge. Speaking up and being honest and open means you’re rising to the occasion and taking your power back. Instead of riding in the back of the bus and wondering if the bus driver will remember your stop, you’re stepping into the driver’s seat.

3. Ask Yourself: Are You Adding to the Issues?

It’s easy to blame the other person for the relationship’s issues. But remember—it takes two to tango. Are you adding to the problems? What do you do that makes the situation worse? When was the last time you fulfilled your partner’s needs? Do you know what their needs are? Have you ever asked?

You are the other half of the relationship, and it’s important to own this fact. Take some time to yourself and deeply consider how you treat people.

Your needs and your personal boundaries are so, so, SO important. But they’re no more important than the needs of the other person. Are you neglecting their needs? Are you crossing their boundaries?

Do you regularly criticize your partner in front of their friends or family? How often do you criticize them in private? Do you dismiss your son’s dream of being a musician simply because it looks different than the future you planned for him? Do you automatically shut out your sister from making the Christmas turkey because she undercooked it 10 years ago? How often do you complain to your partner about this, that, or the other thing? Are you really listening when they speak? Do you ever lie to your partner?

It’s natural to have different needs and wants in a relationship; after all, you’re not the same person. You’re two individuals who (hopefully!) love and respect each other and who have come together to bring a little happiness and support into each other’s lives. You each have separate needs, but when we feel stuck, it’s very easy to forget about the other person’s needs and only focus on our own perspective.

How can you find common ground? Are you making the situation worse? Are you the toxic one in the relationship? In order to get unstuck, you must remember to put aside your ego and consider your own toxic actions and behavior.

4. Prioritize Self-Love and Self-Care

happy smiling woman holding hugging herself

Yes, I encourage you to take a deep look at yourself and consider how you’re negatively contributing to your relationship, but I am not suggesting you sit in your feelings of guilt, believing yourself to be a “bad person” because you’ve made mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. Your partner makes them. And heck, you better believe I’ve made my fair share of blunders too! 🙋‍♀️

Do not punish yourself, and do not take all of the blame. There’s plenty to go around! We’re not playing the blame game—we’re focusing on self-improvement, and you can’t improve without self-love and self-care.

You must, must, MUST take care of yourself. If you don’t take care of yourself first, you can’t hope to effectively take care of anyone else. Is it possible you feel stuck because you’re always participating in activities or eating food or watching movies your partner likes, but you don’t? How often do you spend time doing the things you like to do? How often do you spend time alone doing whatever you want to do?

Whether you want to continue in the relationship or not, you must prioritize self-love and taking time for yourself. Make time to do the things that make you happy. Focusing on your own self-care is not selfish—it’s absolutely necessary for your emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual health.

Can’t think of a self-care activity? Here are a few examples of what you can do:

  • Read a book under a blanket with some tea and honey
  • Tend a garden
  • Treat yourself to a mani, pedi, or facial
  • Sleep on your favorite sheets
  • Meditate
  • Try yoga
  • Exercise
  • Write in your journal and keep a diary
  • Work on an art project
  • Have a hot bath surrounded by lots of bubbles and scented candles
  • Go for a walk and pay attention to your surroundings
  • Watch the birds outside your window
  • Cook your favorite meal
  • Do anything that makes you feel HAPPY and HEALTHY!

“Acts of self-care are acts of self-love.” - Rhonda Britten

You must show yourself compassion, and taking time for yourself to do the things that bring you joy is doing just that. A loving, honest, evolving relationship will always be out of reach if you do not first prioritize self-love. You have to love yourself before you are truly able to accept anyone else’s love. It took me a very long time to realize this!

I have so much to say about self-love. Once you’re done here, I encourage you to check out my guide on loving yourself: How To Love Yourself: 7 Self-Love Tips You’ll Love.

It’s very possible you feel stuck because you aren’t making time for acts of self-care and self-love. While it may feel like you don’t have time in your schedule to prioritize these things, remember that you’re in the driver’s seat. This is your car—this is YOUR LIFE. Only you can control your own life. This brings us to my next point!

5. Focus on What You Can Control

While it’s easy to blame your feelings of stuckness on your partner, here’s the truth: You are responsible for your own happiness.

We often get so caught up in what we can't control that we forget about the things we do have control over. But at the end of the day, no matter how stuck you might feel in your relationship, there is plenty within your control.

You can’t control what the other person in the relationship does. You can’t control what the other person says. BUT you can control your actions. You can control what you say. You can control whether or not you express your needs. And you can control whether or not you stay in a relationship if you realize it has become toxic or one-sided.

Your partner is not in control of your happiness or whether or not you feel stuck. There are so many aspects of your life and relationships that are within your control to change, evolve, and improve. Small steps toward living fearlessly can make a huge difference to the quality of your life. You have control over understanding your own needs. You have control over ensuring you practice self-care. You have control over your own self-love and self-trust.

I bet once you begin taking care of all of those things that are within your control, you won’t feel quite so stuck anymore. A huge part of feeling stuck is feeling powerless. You don’t know the next steps you should take. By recognizing what is and what isn’t in your control, you can begin to take thoughtful, effective steps forward—and get unstuck!

6. Surround Yourself With Support

Concept of support - man and woman holding hands in the room

A strong support network is vital when you’re going through difficult times. Unfortunately, we can often withdraw from our social circle when we feel stuck and unhappy in our relationship. You may fear being judged, you may fear being perceived as a failure, or you may want to avoid being a burden, but it’s during these challenging times that it’s most important to lean on your trusted friends and family members. They are an invaluable source of emotional support. You would be there for your friends and family members if they needed you; allow them to be there for you too.

The Fearless Living community can be just what you need when you are feeling stuck. Fearless Living is filled with like-minded people who have been right where you are. They can lend an ear if you need to vent, share their own stories, or simply tell you everything is going to be okay. Because it absolutely will. You will make it through this, and you will be even stronger and more fearless for it.

Fear is terrible at giving advice; don’t let fear keep you from speaking to the people you trust about what’s really going on. Reach out to your friends, family, or community to ask for their advice and support as you figure out the next steps to take in your relationship.

7. It May Be Time to Leave a Toxic Relationship

Not every relationship is destined to work out. Ask yourself, how often does the other person complain, not just about you, but about anything and everything? How often do they criticize you and put you down? Do they ever ask you about yourself and how you’re doing? Do you feel better after interacting with them or worse? How often do they ask for or demand things you’ve made it clear you’re not comfortable with? Have you experienced emotional abuse, physical abuse, or domestic violence of any kind?

If you said yes to any of the above, it’s a clear sign your relationship is toxic. Learn more from my guide: How to Move on From a Toxic Relationship (And How to Recognize One). I break down the differences between healthy and unhappy relationships and share what you can do to break free from the toxic relationships in your life.

Domestic abuse is never okay. While it is sometimes possible to fix a toxic relationship, it’s very rare, and too many people get stuck trying to fix the unfixable. We want to believe we have control over every aspect of our life, but that’s simply not true. We only have control over our own actions. If your partner refuses to change, it’s time to move on.

While I know that’s a lot easier said than done, it doesn’t make it any less true. If your relationship is toxic, you must end it for your own wellbeing and personal safety. Leaving a relationship with someone who doesn’t treat you well is not a failure; the real tragedy is staying with someone who doesn’t recognize, nurture, and celebrate all of the wonderfulness that makes you you. You are enough just as you are. If the person you’re in a relationship with can’t see that, that is their failure, not yours.

I said before that it takes two to tango. So, if your partner keeps missing all of the steps, stomping on your toes, and taking it out on you, it’s time to leave the dance floor and find a new dance! The same is true of the relationships you have with friends and family members. Toxic relationships of any kind hold you back, hinder your health, stop you from pursuing your dreams, and keep you from living the life your soul intended.™

Until you break free of your toxic relationships, there will always be something holding you back and pulling you back toward everything you fear most.

 

Get Your Relationship Unstuck With Fearless Living 

Getting your relationship unstuck won’t happen overnight. It will take a lot of effort and dedication, as well as a commitment from both of you—but it is possible to fast-track your journey by joining a community of like-minded people at Fearless Living.

Fearless Living is a community of people just like you who are passionate about building strong, healthy relationships that are free from fear and toxicity. My Training Program is based on decades of learning how to crack the secret code to fear. With the Fearless Living program and Fearless You, an online database of dozens of courses, you’ll learn what to do if you feel trapped in a relationship, how to set clear boundaries, how to build your self-esteem and self-worth, and so much more.

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