Living in the Grey is Your Way Out of Black-and-White Thinking

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You may or may not know this about me: I'm a firm believer in living in the grey.

It's probably kinda funny to hear it that way, yet most destiny-seekers who come to Fearless Living are stuck in black-and-white thinking in the areas where they have their biggest doubts.

It's easy to get caught in black-and-white thinking because it stems from a desire to be clear and confident in taking the next step. (And, who doesn't want that?)

But it also means an answer is either right or wrong, good or bad, and there is no in-between. And that can lead to rigidity, close-mindedness, and tunnel vision, which leaves out all the good stuff, like grace, space, and synchronicity. (Oh, and let's not forget miracles, too!)

I recently spoke to a group of Interior Designers, all making 7-figures and some 8-figures.

That level of success didn't stop them from confessing to me that they constantly wondered what was wrong with them. Why couldn't they trust themselves and believe in who they were?

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"I blame myself for everything," one woman said. Another told me that she was petrified of making a wrong decision.

When these amazingly successful women weren't 100% certain of their next step, and if that step didn't guarantee 100% success, they felt like a complete failure. That's black-and-white thinking.

Sure, if you're like me, you're saying right about now: "Well, where's their faith? Where's their trust? They just have to go for it!"

Easy for you to say. But let's talk truth...

How often do you bounce between believing in yourself or doubting yourself? Taking action or feeling stalled? Feeling comfortable in the grey or yearning for some good ol' black and white?

Even though we "KNOW" what we should do in those tense moments—have some faith, trust, and take action—when we're being swallowed up by doubt, or envy, or overwhelm, it's easy to want some good old black-and-white thinking to calm us down and help us decide.

Plato told us to "know thyself," yet, if you're like me, in our daily life, there are two different versions of ourselves battling it out, which makes it easy to get caught in black-and-white thinking because those two parts of ourselves seem to be constantly fighting it out in our heads and in our hearts.

Living in the grey is the way out of right or wrong, good or bad, black-and-white thinking. 

Grey is where we are both successful AND failures, confident AND doubters, clear AND uncertain. Living in the grey is the only path to a meaningful and thriving life.

Living in the grey is the only place where you will find the real, authentic you and have the courage and resilience to live the life your soul intended™. Black-and-white thinking will never get you there.

Oh, and by the way, living in the grey is actually where the rainbow of colors reside. So if you want more color, more aliveness? Grey is the way.

Living in the grey—being willing to act while being unsure, trusting your decisions even if the world has the opposite opinion, having faith that something is happening even if it feels like nothing is happening—will give you the confidence that "all is well" even when it feels like everything isn't and therefore, usher in the peace of mind we all crave.

Spiritual Take Away

Whenever you're feeling stuck, confused, overwhelmed, or anxious,
ask yourself:
How am I caught in black-and-white thinking?

Then, ask yourself:
If I was living in the grey zone,
what would I be doing/thinking/feeling differently?

From Fear to Freedom
From Fear to Freedom GUIDE topaz enhance sharpen hiresDOWNLOAD GUIDE

You may or may not know this about me: I'm a firm believer in living in the grey.

It's probably kinda funny to hear it that way, yet most destiny-seekers who come to Fearless Living are stuck in black-and-white thinking in the areas where they have their biggest doubts.

It's easy to get caught in black-and-white thinking because it stems from a desire to be clear and confident in taking the next step. (And, who doesn't want that?)

But it also means an answer is either right or wrong, good or bad, and there is no in-between. And that can lead to rigidity, close-mindedness, and tunnel vision, which leaves out all the good stuff, like grace, space, and synchronicity. (Oh, and let's not forget miracles, too!)

I recently spoke to a group of Interior Designers, all making 7-figures and some 8-figures.

That level of success didn't stop them from confessing to me that they constantly wondered what was wrong with them. Why couldn't they trust themselves and believe in who they were?

black and white thinking painting - truth truth truth

"I blame myself for everything," one woman said. Another told me that she was petrified of making a wrong decision.

When these amazingly successful women weren't 100% certain of their next step, and if that step didn't guarantee 100% success, they felt like a complete failure. That's black-and-white thinking.

Sure, if you're like me, you're saying right about now: "Well, where's their faith? Where's their trust? They just have to go for it!"

Easy for you to say. But let's talk truth...

How often do you bounce between believing in yourself or doubting yourself? Taking action or feeling stalled? Feeling comfortable in the grey or yearning for some good ol' black and white?

Even though we "KNOW" what we should do in those tense moments—have some faith, trust, and take action—when we're being swallowed up by doubt, or envy, or overwhelm, it's easy to want some good old black-and-white thinking to calm us down and help us decide.

Plato told us to "know thyself," yet, if you're like me, in our daily life, there are two different versions of ourselves battling it out, which makes it easy to get caught in black-and-white thinking because those two parts of ourselves seem to be constantly fighting it out in our heads and in our hearts.

Living in the grey is the way out of right or wrong, good or bad, black-and-white thinking. 

Grey is where we are both successful AND failures, confident AND doubters, clear AND uncertain. Living in the grey is the only path to a meaningful and thriving life.

Living in the grey is the only place where you will find the real, authentic you and have the courage and resilience to live the life your soul intended™. Black-and-white thinking will never get you there.

Oh, and by the way, living in the grey is actually where the rainbow of colors reside. So if you want more color, more aliveness? Grey is the way.

Living in the grey—being willing to act while being unsure, trusting your decisions even if the world has the opposite opinion, having faith that something is happening even if it feels like nothing is happening—will give you the confidence that "all is well" even when it feels like everything isn't and therefore, usher in the peace of mind we all crave.

Spiritual Take Away

Whenever you're feeling stuck, confused, overwhelmed, or anxious,
ask yourself:
How am I caught in black-and-white thinking?

Then, ask yourself:
If I was living in the grey zone,
what would I be doing/thinking/feeling differently?

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