Every emotional fear we delve into at Fearless Living possesses the potential to manifest in a myriad of ways. Take, for instance, the concept of change. It’s an intriguing one. Change can be utterly paralyzing for some while others shrug it off. Are you someone who’s able to adjust to change instead of resisting it? Do you roll with the punches and adapt as needed? Can you take unexpected situations in stride and find the silver lining?
If you’re an adaptable person, I commend you, but no matter how well you manage change, we all hit a wall sometimes.
Because here’s the thing about change: You can’t avoid it. No matter how much you may want to run away from it or hide from it, change will always be a constant in your life. And the more you try to avoid facing the inevitable changes of life, the more you push back against the changes that are coming your way, the more the fear of those changes controls you.
And that paralyzing desire to avoid change will develop further and further into a deep-rooted fear that will damage all areas of your life—from your relationships to your career to how you view yourself to whether or not you pursue the life your soul intended.™
Today, I’ll share the Fearless Living definition of fear of change, the three types of change you experience in your life, the stages of change, and the steps you can take to overcome your fear of change.
Fear is a big word, and when many of us think of being extremely afraid, common phobias like a fear of clowns, spiders, or heights come to mind. While these are very real and can be intense fears, they are not the type of fears we focus on at Fearless Living.
Our focus at Fearless Living is on our emotional fears. Emotional fears penetrate deep into the heart of our spiritual and mental health, consciously or unconsciously influencing us to make destructive decisions that lead us further and further away from our dreams, desires, goals, and living the life our soul intended.™
I will continue to discuss each of the fundamental fears we speak about at Fearless Living in detail right here on this blog. If you’re looking for a more general overview of each type of fear and the difference between common phobias and irrational fear vs. emotional fear, read: 10 Common Types of Fear and How to Overcome Them.
What Causes the Fear of Change?
Change is all around us, and it’s part of everything we do. Change occurs to our bodies and minds, it occurs to the people around us, it occurs in nature, it occurs in our careers, and it occurs as our families grow.
Change can be as simple as a restaurant only serving Pepsi when you are used to ordering Coke. How do you react to changes big and small? Are you able to roll with it, embrace change, and order Pepsi, or does that small detail—that small change—throw you off balance and ruin your entire meal?
So, if change is so common and present all around us, why do we fear the changes we see coming a mile off or avoid the changes that are staring us in the face? Why is it so hard to accept change?
Much of fearing change comes from the fact we don’t trust ourselves. We don’t trust our feelings or our ability to make decisions, or even our own body signals. We’ve been taught by so many different people, people who love us, not to trust ourselves. We don’t listen to our intuition, and we often don’t know how to listen to it. And change comes with many unknowns. The burning question most people have is, “What will be the result of the upcoming change?”
Many of the clients I work with tell me they don’t know if the change is worth it. If they’re not guaranteed to be a bestselling author when they publish their first book, why bother? They get so attached to the result they don’t even bother trying. You also don’t know how the people around you are going to react when you change. Will people still love you? Will people still accept you?
Fear of change comes down to this:
We don’t know how to trust ourselves.
We don’t know if we will win.
We don’t know if we will get results.
We don’t know if people will approve.
We don’t know HOW to change.
And again, these changes may not be big ones like getting married or upleveling your career; they could be small, simple changes, like changing your brand of sneakers, changing what beverage you order with meals, changing the type of car you drive, or changing your address.
These small changes can bring up a lot of shame and anxiety. Are you getting larger or smaller, and what will people think of that? Does getting water with dinner instead of wine make you less fun or less likable? Will people judge you for downgrading or upgrading your car? Are you deserving of living in the neighborhood you do, and what do others think about where you live?
Next, let’s take a closer look at the three types of change because they are not all the same. These are the changes that are invisible. No matter how much you may want to avoid them, they are headed your way and could be happening as we speak.
The Three Types of Change
1. Change That Happens to You
Change that happens to you is the kind of change you can’t control, such as the death of someone you love. You are deeply affected by it, but you are not the cause of what happened.
Other examples include your children leaving the nest and moving on with their lives. This change is outside of your control, but it’s one that still happens to you and one you have to come to terms with. The company you work with going bankrupt is a change that happens to you. A sudden accident or illness is a change that happens to you.
You had nothing to do with it, and you were not an active participant. And this can cause a lot of resentment. You might feel guilty, hopeless, angry, unsteady. How do you feel safe and comfortable with change when it comes so suddenly and is outside of your control?
2. Change That You Initiate
You play an active role in the change you initiate. Examples of this type of change include opening your heart to love, starting your own business, choosing to lose weight, moving to a new city, changing careers, or learning a new skill for fun.
You are the cause here. You are the effect of change.
Change that you initiate usually occurs because you want something different in your life. You want it to be better and you want a shift to occur. You are willing to take the risk and take the steps toward that change. That doesn’t mean you won’t have feelings about it—and a range of feelings will come up! However, they are usually easier to manage when you are controlling the change.
3. Change That Happens to You but May Be Impacted By You
The last type of change is a bit of a combination of type one and type two. It's a change that happens to you, but the change was impacted by your actions and decisions.
If you get fired from your job, it may feel like it’s happening to you, but you actually played a role in that change. Maybe you showed up late to work too often. Maybe you didn’t complete assignments on time. Maybe you didn’t try to integrate into the team or be a team player. Although you did have some sort of involvement in the change, it feels like it’s a change that’s happening to you.
Divorce might be a decision that you initiate yourself or it may feel like a change that is happening to you. Maybe you didn’t initiate it, but what role did you play leading up to that change? What decisions did you make or what actions did you take that led to the divorce?
Health issues often feel like they are happening to us when it’s not always the case. Sometimes the health issue develops because of our own previous actions. Is developing diabetes random, or is it because of your own eating habits and choices?
When these types of changes occur, we can feel like a victim. The change is happening to you, but you don’t want to take responsibility for your part in that change.
The Six Stages of Change
No matter what type of change you are going through, you still need to work your way through each stage. It doesn’t matter if you initiate the change or if the change is happening to you, there are still six stages.
The stages of change were developed by J.O. Prochaska and Carlo C. DiClemente. What I love so much about these stages is they give you permission to take your time moving through change. Because even if we are the ones initiating a change, it doesn’t happen immediately, and it may take time for us to even begin to make that change a reality.
So, what are the six stages of change?
Precontemplation
Contemplation
Determination: Commit to Act
Action
Maintenance
Termination
Precontemplation—You’re not yet conscious of the change. It’s still in the background. People often get stuck here for a long time.
Contemplation—You actively bring the idea to the surface and you begin to work on whether you will act or not. You might weigh the pros and cons or the risk versus the reward.
Determination: Commit to Act—You make a commitment to do something about it. You decide that change must happen and will happen.
Action—You begin to actually start and take action. You might announce your commitment to the world and create other external motivators that can support your success.
Maintenance—You must put in the work to keep momentum. At this stage, you will experience ups and downs, expansion and contraction. It will require hard work and plenty of practice.
Termination—The embodiment of that change. You made the change and have confidence that you can continue successfully. It is fully integrated into your life.
Understanding that there are many steps on the road to change makes it easier to take that first step. It doesn’t happen overnight—big life changes can take years, and that’s okay. It’s part of the process we all go through.
I’ve only scratched the surface of explaining these stages here. In my full course dedicated to Fear of Change, I dig deeper and run through examples of how I moved through each of these stages to finally quit drinking once and for all. The course also covers more strategies and Fearbuster exercises™ than I’m able to detail in this single article. A Fearless You membership gives you access to the Overcoming Fear of Change course, as well as the entire How to Overcome Fear series.
How Can I Overcome My Fear of Change? How Can I Embrace Change?
Alright, so we have a good understanding of what fear of change is, what change can look like, and the steps it takes to move through a major change. Next, I’ll share some actionable strategies you can use to help combat and overcome your fear of change.
Find Your Why
Find the why behind any change you want to make. Why do you want to change? What’s in it for you?
When you can see the reward, change becomes easier. When you can see the vision, it becomes easier. Envision the future with a positive change you are contemplating. What does it look like?
Take giving up alcohol, for example. Why do you want to quit drinking? Why are you deciding to make that change? What’s in it for you? What’s the reward to yourself, your health, your relationships, etc., for not drinking? What will continue to be the reward for years to come?
What reward are you seeking? It helps to look at your own values. What’s important to you?
Be cautious, though, because reward can also be viewed through the lens of fear. You may fear not getting the exact outcome you desire, and when this happens, you lose sight of what matters. Remember, there are never any guaranteed results. The result you seek can become so rigid that you fear not achieving it so much you may not even start.
Your WHY might be that you want to be a bestselling author. This may inspire you to start writing, but that reward might not be what keeps you writing. If you realize along the way you may not become a bestselling author, it doesn’t mean the choice to start writing wasn’t worth it. It’s what gave you the push and motivation to get started.
If you are finding you are uninspired by your WHY, it’s likely not deep enough; it’s not connected to a larger purpose. You’ve chosen a reason that might be external instead of internal. Go deeper to find your why.
Question What is Possible
When was the last time you questioned what was possible? When was the last time you took your dreams and thought through how they could become a reality?
So many of us never get past the daydreaming. We think dreams are something for fairytales or that we aren’t good enough in some way to make our dreams a reality. We think dreams are silly—for a younger version of ourselves.
But dreams can come true. Your whole world will open up to endless possibilities without the shackles of fear holding you back. Will it be easy? Absolutely not. But difficult is not the same as impossible.
Allow yourself to daydream, envision a new future, and expand what you thought was possible. Allow yourself to reach for the moon.
Light that spark again to begin believing in your dreams because believing in them is the first step to actually pursuing them.
So often, we fear change because we are held back by what we believe is possible. We’ve been trapped by fear for so long that we can’t even imagine what change might look like. So for this exercise, let your imagination run wild. Get rid of your assumptions, excuses, and all of those “I can’t because…”
What if you could? What if there wasn’t anything holding you back? What might that look like?
When I find myself complaining or making excuses, it’s often because I don’t know how to make the change I need to make.
Let’s talk about a practical example. I want to increase my website’s exposure. I want to bring people to my website using SEO so that more people can find Fearless Living and more people can become Fearless. It’s a huge goal of mine to help the whole world overcome fear, but to do so, people have to find the Fearless Living program.
I’ve spent hours and hours reading about SEO, taking marketing classes, asking questions, and so on. I have the knowledge, and I logically understand how to do it. I have the ability to improve my website.
BUT here's the problem. When I wasn’t making progress, I realized I didn’t know how to put all that knowledge into action. How do you move from knowing to actually doing? I’ve realized that when I find myself stuck and not moving forward, it’s because I really don’t understand the mechanics. I need to get someone to walk me through the mechanics step-by-step. It’s the only way I can move forward.
And I may feel silly telling someone I don’t understand something. I may feel dumb. I may feel like they might be judging me or feeling impatient with me. But it’s the only way I can move forward.
Here’s the truth.
You will fail.
You will fall down.
You will make mistakes.
You will feel dumb.
You will feel humiliated.
You will want to crawl under a rock.
That is the absolute truth. Those are the facts of life. But change anyways!
Change anyway because it’s happening regardless. You’re either growing or dying, and both of those things are change. Let’s repeat that again because it’s the powerful lesson I want to leave you with.
You’re either growing or dying, and both of those things are change.
Cracking Your Fear of Change With Fearless Living
Cracking the code to your fear of change is only one tiny piece of the Fearless Living community. With a Fearless You membership, you’ll have access to the whole How to Overcome Fear series, which includes the 10 most common fears, including Fear of Failure, Fear of Success, Fear of the Unknown, and more.
As long as you have a Fearless You membership, the How to Overcome Fear Series will continue to be available to you, along with dozens of other courses, lessons, and live sessions on self-doubt, living in the present moment, getting over your negative worldview, establishing clear boundaries, and so much more. The entire Fearless You library is just a click away, ready and able to help you live the life your soul intended.™
Every emotional fear we delve into at Fearless Living possesses the potential to manifest in a myriad of ways. Take, for instance, the concept of change. It’s an intriguing one. Change can be utterly paralyzing for some while others shrug it off. Are you someone who’s able to adjust to change instead of resisting it? Do you roll with the punches and adapt as needed? Can you take unexpected situations in stride and find the silver lining?
If you’re an adaptable person, I commend you, but no matter how well you manage change, we all hit a wall sometimes.
Because here’s the thing about change: You can’t avoid it. No matter how much you may want to run away from it or hide from it, change will always be a constant in your life. And the more you try to avoid facing the inevitable changes of life, the more you push back against the changes that are coming your way, the more the fear of those changes controls you.
And that paralyzing desire to avoid change will develop further and further into a deep-rooted fear that will damage all areas of your life—from your relationships to your career to how you view yourself to whether or not you pursue the life your soul intended.™
Today, I’ll share the Fearless Living definition of fear of change, the three types of change you experience in your life, the stages of change, and the steps you can take to overcome your fear of change.
Fear is a big word, and when many of us think of being extremely afraid, common phobias like a fear of clowns, spiders, or heights come to mind. While these are very real and can be intense fears, they are not the type of fears we focus on at Fearless Living.
Our focus at Fearless Living is on our emotional fears. Emotional fears penetrate deep into the heart of our spiritual and mental health, consciously or unconsciously influencing us to make destructive decisions that lead us further and further away from our dreams, desires, goals, and living the life our soul intended.™
I will continue to discuss each of the fundamental fears we speak about at Fearless Living in detail right here on this blog. If you’re looking for a more general overview of each type of fear and the difference between common phobias and irrational fear vs. emotional fear, read: 10 Common Types of Fear and How to Overcome Them.
What Causes the Fear of Change?
Change is all around us, and it’s part of everything we do. Change occurs to our bodies and minds, it occurs to the people around us, it occurs in nature, it occurs in our careers, and it occurs as our families grow.
Change can be as simple as a restaurant only serving Pepsi when you are used to ordering Coke. How do you react to changes big and small? Are you able to roll with it, embrace change, and order Pepsi, or does that small detail—that small change—throw you off balance and ruin your entire meal?
So, if change is so common and present all around us, why do we fear the changes we see coming a mile off or avoid the changes that are staring us in the face? Why is it so hard to accept change?
Much of fearing change comes from the fact we don’t trust ourselves. We don’t trust our feelings or our ability to make decisions, or even our own body signals. We’ve been taught by so many different people, people who love us, not to trust ourselves. We don’t listen to our intuition, and we often don’t know how to listen to it. And change comes with many unknowns. The burning question most people have is, “What will be the result of the upcoming change?”
Many of the clients I work with tell me they don’t know if the change is worth it. If they’re not guaranteed to be a bestselling author when they publish their first book, why bother? They get so attached to the result they don’t even bother trying. You also don’t know how the people around you are going to react when you change. Will people still love you? Will people still accept you?
Fear of change comes down to this:
We don’t know how to trust ourselves.
We don’t know if we will win.
We don’t know if we will get results.
We don’t know if people will approve.
We don’t know HOW to change.
And again, these changes may not be big ones like getting married or upleveling your career; they could be small, simple changes, like changing your brand of sneakers, changing what beverage you order with meals, changing the type of car you drive, or changing your address.
These small changes can bring up a lot of shame and anxiety. Are you getting larger or smaller, and what will people think of that? Does getting water with dinner instead of wine make you less fun or less likable? Will people judge you for downgrading or upgrading your car? Are you deserving of living in the neighborhood you do, and what do others think about where you live?
Next, let’s take a closer look at the three types of change because they are not all the same. These are the changes that are invisible. No matter how much you may want to avoid them, they are headed your way and could be happening as we speak.
The Three Types of Change
1. Change That Happens to You
Change that happens to you is the kind of change you can’t control, such as the death of someone you love. You are deeply affected by it, but you are not the cause of what happened.
Other examples include your children leaving the nest and moving on with their lives. This change is outside of your control, but it’s one that still happens to you and one you have to come to terms with. The company you work with going bankrupt is a change that happens to you. A sudden accident or illness is a change that happens to you.
You had nothing to do with it, and you were not an active participant. And this can cause a lot of resentment. You might feel guilty, hopeless, angry, unsteady. How do you feel safe and comfortable with change when it comes so suddenly and is outside of your control?
2. Change That You Initiate
You play an active role in the change you initiate. Examples of this type of change include opening your heart to love, starting your own business, choosing to lose weight, moving to a new city, changing careers, or learning a new skill for fun.
You are the cause here. You are the effect of change.
Change that you initiate usually occurs because you want something different in your life. You want it to be better and you want a shift to occur. You are willing to take the risk and take the steps toward that change. That doesn’t mean you won’t have feelings about it—and a range of feelings will come up! However, they are usually easier to manage when you are controlling the change.
3. Change That Happens to You but May Be Impacted By You
The last type of change is a bit of a combination of type one and type two. It's a change that happens to you, but the change was impacted by your actions and decisions.
If you get fired from your job, it may feel like it’s happening to you, but you actually played a role in that change. Maybe you showed up late to work too often. Maybe you didn’t complete assignments on time. Maybe you didn’t try to integrate into the team or be a team player. Although you did have some sort of involvement in the change, it feels like it’s a change that’s happening to you.
Divorce might be a decision that you initiate yourself or it may feel like a change that is happening to you. Maybe you didn’t initiate it, but what role did you play leading up to that change? What decisions did you make or what actions did you take that led to the divorce?
Health issues often feel like they are happening to us when it’s not always the case. Sometimes the health issue develops because of our own previous actions. Is developing diabetes random, or is it because of your own eating habits and choices?
When these types of changes occur, we can feel like a victim. The change is happening to you, but you don’t want to take responsibility for your part in that change.
The Six Stages of Change
No matter what type of change you are going through, you still need to work your way through each stage. It doesn’t matter if you initiate the change or if the change is happening to you, there are still six stages.
The stages of change were developed by J.O. Prochaska and Carlo C. DiClemente. What I love so much about these stages is they give you permission to take your time moving through change. Because even if we are the ones initiating a change, it doesn’t happen immediately, and it may take time for us to even begin to make that change a reality.
So, what are the six stages of change?
Precontemplation
Contemplation
Determination: Commit to Act
Action
Maintenance
Termination
Precontemplation—You’re not yet conscious of the change. It’s still in the background. People often get stuck here for a long time.
Contemplation—You actively bring the idea to the surface and you begin to work on whether you will act or not. You might weigh the pros and cons or the risk versus the reward.
Determination: Commit to Act—You make a commitment to do something about it. You decide that change must happen and will happen.
Action—You begin to actually start and take action. You might announce your commitment to the world and create other external motivators that can support your success.
Maintenance—You must put in the work to keep momentum. At this stage, you will experience ups and downs, expansion and contraction. It will require hard work and plenty of practice.
Termination—The embodiment of that change. You made the change and have confidence that you can continue successfully. It is fully integrated into your life.
Understanding that there are many steps on the road to change makes it easier to take that first step. It doesn’t happen overnight—big life changes can take years, and that’s okay. It’s part of the process we all go through.
I’ve only scratched the surface of explaining these stages here. In my full course dedicated to Fear of Change, I dig deeper and run through examples of how I moved through each of these stages to finally quit drinking once and for all. The course also covers more strategies and Fearbuster exercises™ than I’m able to detail in this single article. A Fearless You membership gives you access to the Overcoming Fear of Change course, as well as the entire How to Overcome Fear series.
How Can I Overcome My Fear of Change? How Can I Embrace Change?
Alright, so we have a good understanding of what fear of change is, what change can look like, and the steps it takes to move through a major change. Next, I’ll share some actionable strategies you can use to help combat and overcome your fear of change.
Find Your Why
Find the why behind any change you want to make. Why do you want to change? What’s in it for you?
When you can see the reward, change becomes easier. When you can see the vision, it becomes easier. Envision the future with a positive change you are contemplating. What does it look like?
Take giving up alcohol, for example. Why do you want to quit drinking? Why are you deciding to make that change? What’s in it for you? What’s the reward to yourself, your health, your relationships, etc., for not drinking? What will continue to be the reward for years to come?
What reward are you seeking? It helps to look at your own values. What’s important to you?
Be cautious, though, because reward can also be viewed through the lens of fear. You may fear not getting the exact outcome you desire, and when this happens, you lose sight of what matters. Remember, there are never any guaranteed results. The result you seek can become so rigid that you fear not achieving it so much you may not even start.
Your WHY might be that you want to be a bestselling author. This may inspire you to start writing, but that reward might not be what keeps you writing. If you realize along the way you may not become a bestselling author, it doesn’t mean the choice to start writing wasn’t worth it. It’s what gave you the push and motivation to get started.
If you are finding you are uninspired by your WHY, it’s likely not deep enough; it’s not connected to a larger purpose. You’ve chosen a reason that might be external instead of internal. Go deeper to find your why.
Question What is Possible
When was the last time you questioned what was possible? When was the last time you took your dreams and thought through how they could become a reality?
So many of us never get past the daydreaming. We think dreams are something for fairytales or that we aren’t good enough in some way to make our dreams a reality. We think dreams are silly—for a younger version of ourselves.
But dreams can come true. Your whole world will open up to endless possibilities without the shackles of fear holding you back. Will it be easy? Absolutely not. But difficult is not the same as impossible.
Allow yourself to daydream, envision a new future, and expand what you thought was possible. Allow yourself to reach for the moon.
Light that spark again to begin believing in your dreams because believing in them is the first step to actually pursuing them.
So often, we fear change because we are held back by what we believe is possible. We’ve been trapped by fear for so long that we can’t even imagine what change might look like. So for this exercise, let your imagination run wild. Get rid of your assumptions, excuses, and all of those “I can’t because…”
What if you could? What if there wasn’t anything holding you back? What might that look like?
When I find myself complaining or making excuses, it’s often because I don’t know how to make the change I need to make.
Let’s talk about a practical example. I want to increase my website’s exposure. I want to bring people to my website using SEO so that more people can find Fearless Living and more people can become Fearless. It’s a huge goal of mine to help the whole world overcome fear, but to do so, people have to find the Fearless Living program.
I’ve spent hours and hours reading about SEO, taking marketing classes, asking questions, and so on. I have the knowledge, and I logically understand how to do it. I have the ability to improve my website.
BUT here's the problem. When I wasn’t making progress, I realized I didn’t know how to put all that knowledge into action. How do you move from knowing to actually doing? I’ve realized that when I find myself stuck and not moving forward, it’s because I really don’t understand the mechanics. I need to get someone to walk me through the mechanics step-by-step. It’s the only way I can move forward.
And I may feel silly telling someone I don’t understand something. I may feel dumb. I may feel like they might be judging me or feeling impatient with me. But it’s the only way I can move forward.
Here’s the truth.
You will fail.
You will fall down.
You will make mistakes.
You will feel dumb.
You will feel humiliated.
You will want to crawl under a rock.
That is the absolute truth. Those are the facts of life. But change anyways!
Change anyway because it’s happening regardless. You’re either growing or dying, and both of those things are change. Let’s repeat that again because it’s the powerful lesson I want to leave you with.
You’re either growing or dying, and both of those things are change.
Cracking Your Fear of Change With Fearless Living
Cracking the code to your fear of change is only one tiny piece of the Fearless Living community. With a Fearless You membership, you’ll have access to the whole How to Overcome Fear series, which includes the 10 most common fears, including Fear of Failure, Fear of Success, Fear of the Unknown, and more.
As long as you have a Fearless You membership, the How to Overcome Fear Series will continue to be available to you, along with dozens of other courses, lessons, and live sessions on self-doubt, living in the present moment, getting over your negative worldview, establishing clear boundaries, and so much more. The entire Fearless You library is just a click away, ready and able to help you live the life your soul intended.™
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It’s time to celebrate. You did it. Oh how good you’ll feel when you’ve practiced the 30 tools laid out for you in Change Your Life in 30 Days. You’ll feel more yourself than you’ve ever felt before. You’ll be more empowered and powerful knowing these tools are at your fingertips. Bottom line: your relationships will be filled with more love, your worth will skyrocket, your confidence will increase and your dreams will have wings. Your toolbox is full. Your mindset is fearless. Now, go on. Live your Fearless Life.
Day 29: Heaven
Take a breath. A nice deep one. We are going to talk about heaven together. Not the one with God sitting on a cloud, but the heaven that exists right where you are. The heaven tat shows up when we live by our commitments. In Day 29, I’ve created a commitment statement that will anchor you as you move forward in living more fearlessly. It will inspire you, and yes, even motivate you. More important, it will remind you who you really are. This is a favorite amongst my students.
Day 28: Beautiful You
Beautiful isn’t a word most people take on easily. They can call other people beautiful but when I ask them to think of themselves that way, they pause, get confused and may even blush. It’s okay. Owning your beauty isn’t something you were probably taught to do. I know I wasn’t. Day 28 is about your beauty within and without and owning it. By the way, you are beautiful and I can’t wait for you to know it. For real.
Day 27: Redefining You
You’ve been on this journey with me for 27 days. And in those 27 days you’ve changed. For the better. You’re more…how do I say it? More YOU! And it’s time to take a moment and reflect on who you are now. It’s time to redefine who you are and how you want to move forward. Take a breath. This is all good.
Day 26: Never Confront Again
Have you ever avoided having a difficult conversation? Me too. Until I learned this surprising simple mindset that eliminates confronting anyone ever again that I will share with you in Day 26. Plus, I’m going to give you a step-by-step script to show you what to do instead. Your new mindset along with the script will make any conversation you’ve been avoiding way easier. Soon, there will be no conversation too scary for you to have. It’s time to speak up.
Day 25: Forget Motivation
If I give you a hyped up pep speech, you might feel motivated. For a while. But I bet not long enough to get the job done. And that’s the problem with motivation created by an outside force. In Day 25, I’m going to show you what to focus on instead that will give you more long-term results and long-term contentment. Sounds nice, right?
Day 24: What’s Love Got To Do With It
Your yearnings and desires come from wanting to share more of who you are. Self love is what helps you do that by giving you the permission (and worth) to push past your fears and reach for your dreams. But often, it’s doesn’t feel okay to love yourself. It’s feels selfish or greedy. No more. In Day 24, you’ll get the permission you need to go after anything that you want because you’ll know how to love yourself (and you have a right to your dreams.)
Day 23: For or Against
Is the world for you or against you? I know you want to believe the world is for you yet, I bet, based on what you discover in Day 23, you’ll soon see how often you get tricked into believing, and reacting, as if the world is against you. When you feel like the world is against you, it becomes a world filled with lack and that’s no way to live. In Day 23, I will give you a tool that will give you eyes to see that the world is, indeed, for you.
Day 22: The Gift of Rejection
Rejection is hard to face. And it’s a part of life. Usually, it isn’t personal, even when it feels personal. On Day 22, I will be asking you to go beyond the normal surface experience and instead, see yourself through heart of your humanity. Yes. You are human. Yes. Things happen. And yes. You will be rejected. And it’s all good. It might be hard to see it now, but soon, being thankful for rejection will be effortless. Let me show you the tools to use to make this so.
Day 21: Luck, Fate and Destiny
I’m going to blow your mind on Day 21 because I’m asking you to give up luck. Yep. No more luck. On Day 21 I will tell you why and more important, what to do instead. This will give you such relief and make you feel so powerful. Success is within your grasp when you give up luck and embody the tools I share here.
Day 20: Momentum
Let’s keep the momentum going. In Day 20, you’ll revisit the last 10 days to give yourself credit for the hard work you’ve been doing plus, remind yourself of what’s ahead. Without momentum, we lose hope and lose our inspired action. When you have momentum, the bumps of life don’t seem so rough.
Day 19: Forgiveness
Is there a part of you stuck in the past? For over 20 years of my life, I couldn’t get past my past because I didn’t know how to forgive so I refused to. Have you refused to forgive someone in your past whose hurt you? Maybe that person is even yourself? If the past is running your present, you’ll create a future that looks a whole lot like the past. In Day 19, I will take you by the hand and show you how to forgive the past for good. There’s freedom here. I promise.
Day 18: Intuition
Do you know the difference between the voice of fear and the voice of your intuition? Not sure? Day 18 is going to make it crystal clear to you so you can take inspired action. When you know you’re guided by something larger than you, it’s easy to be motivated and trust yourself. The ability to follow your intuition is necessary for true happiness. You’ll find out how here.
Day 17: Excuses
Are you so good at making up excuses you’re confusing them with the facts? You’re not alone. Most people want to show me proof that their excuses are real. I let them. But after I share the tools in Day 17, you won’t want to because you’ll see that a fight for your excuses is a fight for a less than fearless life.
Day 16: The Myth of Balance
The search for balance has become epidemic and based on the amount of magazine articles and books written on the subject, we are failing miserably in our quest for the perfect balance. What if you could create the balance you need to achieve your biggest dreams? In Day 16, I’m going to ask you to give up your search for balance and instead, use this new tool to help you reach your goals.
Day 15: Trusting Heart
Do you ever feel like you can’t really trust the people around you? Has someone you love let you down? Has your heart been broken too many times? What would you say if I told you that trusting others isn’t about them at all but about trusting yourself? In Day 15, you’ll learn a whole new way to trust yourself, and others, so you can finally experience a deeper and more authentic intimacy with those that matter.
Day 14: Liar, Liar
Do you ever find yourself lying to make a situation better? Lying seems harmless enough, especially those little white lies. But those lies erode our self-respect and cause us to doubt ourselves. You might be surprised to learn that honesty isn’t always the answer to lying. Day 14 will give you a pathway out of lies and false honesty to create clear conversations that create more connection in all your relationships.
Day 13: The Power of Word
Do your words empower you or disempower you? Words are slippery and unless we become aware of what comes out of our mouths, more than we’d like, the words we use every day are ruining our chances for success. In Day 13, I will show you which words to eliminate and which words will boost your confidence.
Day 12: Ask for What You Want
What do you really want? No, really? It’s hard to ask for what you want from the person you want it from most, isn’t it? So much at stake. It’s scary to ask for something without any guarantee of satisfactory results. But it is necessary for you to be free. In Day 12, I will show you how to ask for what you want without feeling bad, selfish or guilty.
Day 11: Regrets
Regrets are deadly to our self-esteem, stifle our ability to act and keep us stuck in the past. Until we let go of our regrets, there is little hope for a different future. Day 11 is going to give you the tools to let regret go for good.
Day 10: Integration
It’s time to make sure you “got this.” Not just in theory but in practice. Integrating the tools each step of the way guarantees you can use them again and again now and forever. No matter what lies ahead these tools will be in your toolbox at the ready to set you free from any fear. I will put you through a drill to help you own that you’re doing better than you think you are.
Day 9: Shine Your Light
Have you ever secretly wished you could shout from the rafters: this is who I really am? But instead, did you find yourself putting your success down or unable to speak up when you most wanted to? Day 9 will show you how to give up judging yourself and learn how to shine your light. It’s integral to your ability to say YES to you!
Day 8: The Freedom of Discipline
When you use the power of discipline fueled by your true nature, it becomes an act of love. Let me show you the way to access a truer, more loving kind of discipline that will not make you rigid, strict or stuffy. When you access discipline because you want to, not because you have to, you’ll have more ease, grace and freedom.
Day 7: Are You Making It Up or Is It True?
Want more peace of mind? When I want to launch into full-on attack mode or shut myself down and hide or defend myself, this sentence brings me back to center and allows me to respond, instead of react. Your life is about to get a whole lot better.
Day 6: Stretch, Risk, or Die
Have you ever felt utterly stuck? It’s probably because you didn’t take into account the emotional toll it takes to break bad habits. (Logic alone isn’t enough.) My super secret tool guarantees that you will start taking action on the things that have felt insurmountable in the past. It’s easier than you think.
Day 5: Affirmations, Intentions, and Goals
Have you felt like a complete failure when it comes to affirmations? Me too. I’m going to show you why. Oh, and did you know that goals serve intentions, not the other way around? This is where most success gets sidetracked. I will show you when to use which tool and how to maximize your success.
Day 4: Purpose and Passion
Without purpose, passion can feel out of control and even, crazy. Without passion, purpose can seem dull and uninviting. Purpose and Passion must work hand-in-hand to light you up, inspire others and set your life on its Fearless Path. Day 4 will show you how.
Day 3: Building Your Confidence Muscle
Have you ever wanted more confidence? Day 3 will show you to own the confidence you have had in the past and how to create the confidence you need any time you need it. With confidence, all things are possible.
Day 2: Give Credit Where Credit is Due
Can you accept praise? If you have a hard time accepting compliments or giving yourself credit, Day 2 will give you a tool that will allow you to honor your hard work as well as allow you to receive love from others. (Wouldn’t that be nice.)
Day 1: A New Beginning
The truth is you can have it all. You can have the external things you crave while fulfilling your soul’s desires if you can answer ‘yes’ to these five questions.
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