Do you want to know the real reason you were born?

The reason that will make your life “make sense” and give you so much joy and peace that you will feel like you can do anything.

No more doubting or worrying about the future. No more confusion about the direction you should take in your life. No more stuck in a transition or a rut…

When you know why you were born, decisions are a whole lot easier because you have clarity that may have been missing for a long time. It’s almost like the penny drops, and everything just clicks into place.

In fact, you may already know your ultimate purpose, but maybe you can’t quite believe you could do something so amazing. Or maybe you doubt you can make money at it. Or your family thinks it’s crazy. Or maybe you are wishing and hoping that this thing you love is your purpose, but you’re just not sure.

Here’s My Story

It was 1994, and I was running a little public relations company for small businesses. One of my clients was a man named Paul. He was a coach, a consultant, and a genius.

I had quit acting just a few years before (I had thought that was my purpose, but more about purpose a little later) and was now helping Paul expand his business, from working one-on-one with clients to having workshops, speaking events, and books.

(Yes, I have been teaching human beings how to multiply themselves for two decades.)

It started happening during my first month of working with him. He would just casually look over at me and say, “You’re gonna be a better coach than me.”

I would roll my eyes and laugh him off.

“Me? A coach. NO WAY. Listen to other people's problems all day? I have enough of my own. I couldn’t do that. NO WAY!”

And this became our banter. He told me I am going to be a great coach and 

me looking at him like he was crazy.

(By the way, when I was working with Paul way back then, there were less than a handful of coaches in the entire world. Talk about him, and I am starting an entire industry!)

See, I didn’t think being a Coach was in my future or part of my purpose and why I was born. I didn’t think I could be a Coach.

I mean, who was I to help people when my life wasn’t all together yet? I didn’t think I was smart enough, educated enough, loving enough . . .

I had so many reasons why it was not right, how I wasn’t good enough, why it couldn’t work even though there was somebody who I respected who said to me: YOU ARE A GREAT COACH…I didn’t believe it.

(And let’s not forget there were so few Coaches. How are you supposed to make money in an industry that doesn’t exist yet?)

That’s how fear stopped me from seeing my real purpose.

How to Find Purpose in the Face of Fear

Fear points out all the reasons why you can’t have your purpose. How you don’t deserve your purpose. How is your purpose not the right one? How it won’t support you. And so on…

I didn’t think I was ready. I didn’t think I was good enough. I didn’t think I could make money.

Oh, fear is such a trickster.

It took me several more months and a HUGE MOMENT to make me wake up to my true purpose, my real reason for being alive.

And no, it isn’t being a life coach. Not directly anyway.

Life Coaching is definitely how I DO my purpose, but it isn’t the purpose itself.

My purpose is to bridge the gap between human reality and spiritual truth. It’s to be a way-shower, a guide for people, just like you, who are traversing life’s challenges and aren’t sure what to do next…aren’t even sure who they are sometimes, but they want to become who they were born to be.

My purpose shows up in the world as Fearless Living. But it could have been called Twinkle Toes, for all that matters.

As a human being, my purpose is intrinsic to everything I do. It is the foundation of who I am. It is what gives me direction, focus, motivation, and ease. Yes, ease.

Worry just melts away when you know what you’re supposed to be doing with your life and DOING IT! So many doubts, too, just dropped off.

Finding my purpose was so FREEING!

And that’s only my HUMAN PURPOSE. My soul’s purpose is even deeper than that. Yep, you have two sides of the same purpose, so to speak.

I discovered my purpose first and then created Fearless Living (that’s another story.)

The Bottomline

Everybody focuses on the wrong things: You might think you have to find the perfect name for your business to have it be successful, or you have to find the perfect relationship before you can really focus on what you want to do with your life. Or, you might think you have to make money first, then you can have your purpose…that’s just all plain wrong.

In human life, purpose comes first. Then everything else falls into place.


Take note: When I started my coaching practice (remember, there were only a few coaches, so no one knew what the heck I did), I went from no clients to 20 clients within weeks.

Why? Because I knew my purpose, and that helped me SPEAK about who I was, what I did, and what I could do for you. There were no classes on marketing your coaching practice or workshops on getting clients on YouTube, Facebook, or even email, for that matter. Most people weren’t using it yet.

(Yes, that’s how long I have been changing people’s lives…when I say I have worked with thousands and thousands of people, that’s an understatement.)

If you feel like your purpose is to serve others and have considered being a life coach, please watch this video. Let’s see if coaching is right for you too.

The Foundation of It all

In her groundbreaking seminal work, Rhonda Britten shows you how to master the emotional fears that keep you stuck in old cycles. Fearless Living is the foundation for all of Rhonda’s work, and it gives you an overview of her philosophies on how fear can take your life captive.

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By Rhonda Britten

Rhonda, voted America’s Favorite Life Coach is here to help you get unstuck. “Everyone needs Fearless Living”- Oprah Winfrey With her acclaimed method called Fearless Living, Rhonda Britten has helped thousands of people let go of indecision, gain clarity of purpose, and take life-changing risks. Her work exposes the roots of fear and gives you the tools to move beyond that insidious universal feeling of “not being good enough.” The result is unstoppable confidence and a world of unlimited possibilities.

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