Everyone loves a hero.
We see the hero as…
So bold. So strong. So courageous.
Except that’s not how the hero feels at all.
A true hero feels weak, feels lousy, lacks confidence.
A true hero worries they will fail, be ridiculed, or ostracized.
A true hero doesn’t feel like a hero at all.
They never do.
Because a true hero is in THEIR STUFF when they are being their most fearless.
They don’t feel fearless, they ARE fearless.
They just don’t know it.
Until later. Much later sometimes.
Looking back they ‘may’ be able to see what we see but most hero’s I know still don’t ‘get’ what everyone is talking about.
They just knew one thing: They had to keep going.
Despite the voices of fear urging them to quit, they kept going.
Sometimes they didn’t even know what they were doing. There were no guarantees. But they just knew that things had to change. That THEY had to change.
This is the secret no one talks about:
Becoming a hero can only happen if there IS fear. Period.
There is no hero’s journey without fear. It’s a necessary part of the ‘overcoming,’ ‘getting over,’ ‘moving through,’ whatever you think is stopping you.
But unless you can see it, and know what to do with it, fear will stop you.
Any time you want more than you have, whether that’s love or money or health or purpose, any time you start on the path to expand your life, fear will show up.
Guaranteed. Fear will try to shut you down anytime you want to do more, have more, be more.
It’s fear’s job to shut you down. And it usually wins. Unless you know how to put fear in it’s place.
See, the problem comes in when our hero tries to repeat her heroic actions. Because she didn’t know how she did it the first time, she can’t seem to repeat her success.
She may say she was lucky, except that’s not true.
Has that ever happened to you? You are successful at something maybe once or twice but can’t seem to repeat that success?
You get stuck and can’t figure out how to get out of your own way. Maybe you feel confused or even lost or maybe lonely. Something isn’t clicking and you can’t figure out what it is.
That’s fear, my friend. But this time, you aren’t pushing through it, overcoming it, getting over it. Because this time you can’t see it, can’t grasp it, can’t figure it out.
Here’s the moment a hero becomes a hero of their own story, of their own life. A true hero is born when they make one decision:
The decision to live the life they were born to live.
That is the boldest, most courageous decision you will ever make. Because when you make THAT decision everything changes.