For the past five years I have been coaching a lot...on television, through our coaching training program, at workshops, through speaking events, in my books. But I haven't been coaching private clients one-on-one via the phone.
Coaching privately is different from all of the above. It calls for more of me than anything else. All of my senses must be highly tuned. My intuition must be sharp. I must be willing to listen to the words and beyond the words. I must be willing to speak the truth when the truth may be difficult to hear. I must be willing for clients to be hurt, mad or not like me at all. I must be willing to commit to their life almost more than they are. I must be willing to coax part of their soul out of hiding. I must be willing to believe in them as they attempt to gain the skills, tools and confidence to believe in themselves. I must be ready to be on purpose, on target, on center. And all of this must happen, without fail, within one hour.
Deciding to accept private clients again was not a simple nor easy decision. I took several months to suss out what would truly serve my soul. I asked myself some tough questions. Was I ready for that level of intimate experience? Was my soul calling for that kind of connection? Did I have the energy, the time, the inclination? Was I willing to face all my fears at an even deeper level?
One of the things I pride myself on is my willingness to face my fears and truly practice being fearless yet none of that matters when I am coaching one-on-one...because whatever is unhealed within me, whether I think it is healed or not, shows up. Those issues are in my face wanting more attention, more healing, more of me.
So you see, when I coach others I am committing myself to find out, at a deeper level, who I truly am. I am committing to live in the unknown as I discover aspects of myself I didn't even know needed attention or didn't even know existed. I am committing to living with more integrity, more compassion, more love, more light.
I must commit to being more me.
I started coaching my first client at the end of June. We went deep. It was clear she was ready to work. She had insights. Devoted herself to her homework. Had results. By the end of the first month client after client was changing their life. It felt good to be part of their process. Wait, more than good...it was an honor. And I was changing too.
I purchased my first condo and faced the internal conflict I was experiencing with my new status of girlfriend and step-mom. I reevaluated my lifestyle and my life choices. I had, or should I say I'm having, some of the best coaching sessions with my own coach. As I go deeper with my clients, my coach and I are doing the same.
Like I said, private coaching calls to me in a different way than anything else. And I have decided to continue the journey by accepting a limited number of additonal clients. I will coach until November. Who knows who I will be by then but I can't wait to find out....