Make It Up GOOD!

Date Published: Dec 5, 2017

Every day you decide what the events around you ‘mean.’

I didn’t get the call for the job today. What does it mean?
My boss walked by and didn’t say hello. What does it mean?
I didn’t get an invite to the party. What does it mean?

99.9% of the day, you are making up what it means.
You don’t have the facts, you don’t have the truth,
you just have a guess and then act as if it’s true.

It’s natural to want the world to make sense and one
way to do it is to give things meaning…

Yet, the meaning you give events is usually created by your
Wheel of Fear. And it’s completely MADE UP!

Now, this is my motto:

if you are going to make it up, make it up GOOD!

Make up that THEY LOVE YOU.
Make up that THEY WANT TO INCLUDE YOU.
Make up that IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU…they are just busy,
consumed by their own life. It’s not personal.

Question of the Day:

Write down one person you have an issue with
and ask yourself: What are the facts of the ‘issue’
versus what am I making up?

Admit what you are making up.

If you didn’t get a call for the job it means NOTHING.
If you boss is walking by you without saying hi it means NOTHING.
If you didn’t get an invite to the party it means NOTHING.

If you want to know more about the situation,
curious about their actions.

DO NOT MAKE IT UP.
Instead, ASK. INQUIRY. FIND OUT.

When you do that, you are taking actions based on facts rather than a ‘meaning’ that’s manufactured by your Wheel of Fear in order to avoid having a conversation, asking a question, admitting you want more or are hurt or feel frustrated.

Making it up just shuts us down,
divides us from the ones we love
and puts us on the defensive.

So today, practice NO MEANING.
Instead, ask yourself: Am I making it up or is a fact?

Tell yourself the truth and start having more
authentic relationships with the ones you love.

Great work!

By Rhonda Britten

Rhonda, voted America’s Favorite Life Coach is here to help you get unstuck. “Everyone needs Fearless Living”- Oprah Winfrey With her acclaimed method called Fearless Living, Rhonda Britten has helped thousands of people let go of indecision, gain clarity of purpose, and take life-changing risks. Her work exposes the roots of fear and gives you the tools to move beyond that insidious universal feeling of “not being good enough.” The result is unstoppable confidence and a world of unlimited possibilities.

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