Linda sat on a bench in the locker room of the Pilates studio where she worked. She had just finished her last class of the day, and now she was furiously going through her notebook.
She wanted to review all the tools she had learned in the Fearless Foundation Workshop before going in to talk to her boss…
Then she wrote down her intention for the meeting:
- Get a regular work schedule
- Make more money
Then she took a deep breath and headed to her boss’ office.
“Hey, Terry,” Linda said as she sat down facing the desk. “Thanks for agreeing to meet with me.”
“No problem,” replied Terry with a smile. “And thanks for filling in for Marge the other day. It’s great knowing I can always count on you in a pinch.”
This was the exact thing that in the past would have made Linda cave in and forget about her request. But this time she used one of the proactive behaviors she had listed in her notebook.
She looked out the window for a second, then turned back and said, “Well, that’s what I’d like to talk to you about. I love helping people feel alive and healthy. And just like my clients, I need a regular schedule to be at my best. So would you be willing to support me by setting the same hours for me each week?”
Terry looked a bit taken aback at Linda’s request. “Well, we’re a small operation, as you know. So I need everyone to be flexible, because people get sick and things happen.”
Linda was prepared for this because of what she learned at the workshop about handling difficult people. So she stayed focused.
“Yes, I understand. I get how that would make things easier. But what works best for me is a set schedule. Monday, Wednesday and Thursdays would be my preference.”
In the past, Linda would have just kept talking to justify her request. But now she knew that was what her fear wanted her to do. So this time, she went quiet, allowing her boss to reply when she was ready.
“Well, it sounds like you’re not backing down. So fine – I’ll adjust your schedule. I guess I don’t have any choice.”
Linda ignored the not very subtle dig – she knew that was just her boss’s own fear trying to get her to back down.
She wasn’t sure if she should push her luck. But she had promised herself that she’d practice being fearless.
“That’s great – thanks. And there is one more thing.”
“Yes, Linda…?” Terry didn’t try to hide the irritation in her voice.
“I’d like to talk about compensation. On average, I teach 22 students per class. And a lot of times there’s a waiting list just to get in.
“I know you pay senior instructors per student rather than per hour. I’d like to be compensated in the same way.”
“Geez Linda, I just agreed to give you set hours. Now you want more money as well?
Getting no response from Linda, Terry went on. “You know memberships are down. This just isn’t a good time to be handing out raises.”
At the workshop, Linda had learned how to set boundaries with clarity and compassion by validating the other person first and then restating your request. It was time to practice…
“I understand your point,” Linda answered. “And based on the last four weeks of students coming into my class, I’m in the top tier of your instructors. I would like my compensation to be equal to the others.”
From that point on the conversation didn’t last much longer. Terry grumbled a bit but in the end, Linda got exactly what she wanted.
As she walked out of Terry’s office, Linda took two steps before breaking out into a huge smile. She’d won!
And that night, she took her husband out to celebrate – her treat.
Linda’s experience was not at all unusual for people attending the Fearless Foundation Workshop.
Participants are often astonished at how their lives change once they identify their core fear, understand how it has controlled so much of their lives, and then put the abundance of tools and principles they learn at the event into practice…
Oh, and as for Linda….
Once she found the courage to ask for what she wanted, she experienced a 180-degree shift. She no longer had to drag herself to work.
She loosened up her approach and began leading her classes in a fun, goofy way that was much closer to her real personality.
As a result, her classes grew even more, and her income along with it. And she had more time (and money) to devote to her husband and personal life.
But then something else happened – something completely unexpected that changed Linda’s life in ways she never imagined.
I’ll tell you all about it in my next post….