Forgiveness is never about the other person.
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
When you refuse to forgive, give up resentment, blame, it’s as if you are drinking poison and thinking the other person is gonna die. They don’t. You do.
Let’s face it, half the time the other person doesn’t even KNOW you are upset with them. Holding on to resentment or blame will not make the other person wake up or change. It only makes you miserable.
Today I want you to think about your life, scan through it, and allow anything bothering you about the past, anything, no matter how small, pop up. Allow any person you are hanging on to to simmer to the surface. And be willing to just look at the situation ….and the person…and be willing to see the other person’s innocence (and yours too).
This does not mean you invite them to lunch, or become friends with that person again. All this means is you increase your empathy, compassion and understanding. Just because you have empathy and compassion for the other person doesn’t mean their bad behavior didn’t happen. Doesn’t mean you won’t need boundaries. Doesn’t mean you will ever be friends again. Doesn’t mean you will even talk to them again.
Bottom line: Quit using your lack of forgiveness as a form of protection. Instead, make a choice on how you want to care for yourself and, at the same time, handle the situation. When you don’t forgive, you don’t learn how to deal (and heal) the tough events in your life.
Always remember, honor yourself first.
Your burden will be lighter, life will immediately become brighter and your mind will be clearer.