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heartfelt love notes and more. Together, we’ll discover your worth!

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Recharge Your Love Tank In Just 21 Days!

Attract more love into your life

Have more success in connecting with the RIGHT people!

Know how to set boundaries without feeling bad

Be content and confident in your own skin

Live with less fear and more passion!

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What’s a Love Tank?

Your Love Tank is your inner reservoir of positive emotion. It’s the well from which you draw to do everything else in your life – to make decisions, to work, to attract/deflect influences into your life, to build relationships … everything.

When your Love Tank is full, you feel open, energized, confident, and self-assured. When your Love Tank is low, you feel anxious, self-conscious, guarded, and depressed.

My 21 Days of Self Love course is designed to give your Love Tank not just a refill but to overfill it so it spills into every aspect of your life!

Your Love Tank Might Need A Refill If You:

  • Keep clashing with the wrong people, over and over again. That includes dating!
  • Feel pessimistic about your future, and jealous of other people’s “good luck”
  • Feel lonely, even when you’re not alone
  • Don’t have enough close friends in your life
  • Lost your passion for life somewhere along the way
  • Just don’t feel like yourself any more
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What’s the difference between a full Love Tank and an empty Love Tank?

Whether or not your Love Tank is full makes a huge difference in your life. Your Love Tank is like the mountain you stand on to look out for everything else in your world.

When it’s full, you see possibilities.

When it’s empty, you see obstacles. Here’s a little story to show you what I mean.

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A Full Love Tank
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An Empty Love Tank

A mother recently widowed lives with her daughter, son-in-law, and their two children. When she first moved in, she didn’t know where she fit in, so she talked to her daughter about how she could help out. (When your Love Tank is full, you’re not afraid to have difficult conversations.)

She decided even though she was away from her friends, there was a lot of love right here. She now gets up every morning in gratitude and makes a big breakfast for all of them.

Why does she do all this? Because she loves them and wants to help out in the mornings when everyone is so rushed for time. She’s a big help around the house, and most of all, she feels appreciated. She’s glad she gets to spend her golden years so close to her family. Her life is filled with purpose, meaning, and love.

Her daughter and son-in-law love the connection their children have to their grandmother. Their marriage has even improved with all their new quality time spent together. Plus, mother and daughter have been able to heal all the hurts from the past and are closer than ever. Everyone in the family feels fortunate that they have this time together. 

And with so much love surrounding her, "Grandma" is taking more risks than ever.

Last week, she visited the local library to join a book club that she discovered in the hopes of making new friends or maybe even meeting a potential date. Oh, and she's turned the corner of her bedroom into a mini art studio, so she has a place to feed her long-lost passion for painting.

She feels alive and is thriving and is so glad she didn't let fear stop her from moving in with her daughter's family. 

A mother recently widowed lives with her daughter’s family. She loves her daughter, but being with her all the time is grating on her nerves. The kids are too loud, and her son-in-law looks at her like she’s a nuisance, even though he doesn’t say anything.

She tries to just stay out of their way so she’s not more of a burden, so even though she’s surrounded by people, she’s always lonely.

The daughter loves her mom, but with her staying in her room all day, she’s not contributing anything to the family. The daughter sees her mom as one more person to take care of in an already overburdened schedule. And her mom seems so sad about the whole arrangement, it leaves a cloak of depression over the whole house.

What’s the difference? Perspective!

People who are full of love find ways to connect and contribute. They want to thrive, so they look for ways to increase love and happiness in their life.

People with empty Love Tanks emanate negative energy and get negative results. They are exhausted and have little energy to change. They want to do more and be happier, but it just doesn’t seem to be working out for them. They look around and wonder how their life ended up like this.

Are you always looking for what’s wrong?

Your Love Tank is empty. Perhaps for years, even decades.

Or do you give and give but don’t FEEL loved in return? That’s another way fear tries to trick us. Fear tells us we “should” feel loved, but if we told ourselves the truth, we don’t feel loved at all. Not really.

When your love tank is low, love is hard to find and hard to feel. And even harder to believe in.

Honest Reviews

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- Sharon Wharton
Today was Day 21, and I truly cannot believe how far I have come in 3 weeks with loving myself. 

A few nights ago I took this self-portrait, and when I saw it, I saw the new me that loves herself. I made a print of it and put it on my mirror, because looking into my own eyes has never felt so good. I do not think I could have made this photo with this kind of peaceful knowing look on my face 3 weeks ago. 

Thank you all again and again for sharing this journey with me!
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- Candace Brindley
Your 21 Days of Self Love eventually got through to even me – old crusty me!

I’m a hard case, but I couldn’t resist your funny, creative, and heartfelt messages day after day telling me all the ways and reasons I should give myself permission to start loving myself.

You broke down every barrier to loving myself I had inside me.

In the beginning it was overwhelming, but ultimately I was singing along to the “I Feel Happy” song every morning, adding little love notes to my big flower vase, and noticing all the love coming my way.

What I realize is that you gave me 21 proactive behaviors that got me off my Wheel of Fear and onto my Wheel of Freedom. These are timeless ways to free me from fear. From fear to love!

It felt like you were writing personal notes to me for a month!

I love you Rhonda!
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- Carlease Burke
Thank you so much for these 21 Days of Self Love. I wish I could get love notes from you everyday for the rest of my life (or at least until it really sinks in and I can do it on my own). 

You have certainly given us a strong foundation. My take away(s) for today are “If I never do another thing in my life I still matter” and “loving myself doesn’t mean I will be UP all the time” and “know when to get support no matter how you’re feeling.” 

Thank you for your support.
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- Susan Selix
Thank you so so much Rhonda! This class is taking me by the shoulder and turning me right to where I need to learn a HUMONGAS life lesson; If not the biggest one. The treasure trove of past memories and pain that came up showed me what I have been doing to myself. It revealed itself to me and I was a witness for myself.

What you showed me was where I was presuming and assuming, and then falling apart or crashing and burning. This is where I can be loving instead. Rhonda, these feelings and triggers are so strong and powerful. They are raw and gut wrenching. My reactions, my pain, my misunderstandings in the situations in my past have really created some of the most horrendous of times in my life. I didn’t know any other way, until now.

Thank you so much for your support Rhonda, it truly means the world to me.

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- Ann Jeschke
I have been doing your 21 days of self love for about 3 months now. I have worked SO hard my whole life with Faith/Religion and Self-Help. I got your 21 days of self-love and it has revolutionized my life.

I wish everyone had this workshop because it is the core of what I have been struggling to achieve. I guess I believed for years that intellectually I had to love myself first before anyone could love me, BUT no one told me how. I kept asking and asking and asking and fighting and struggling. My life became about surrender/detachment that was more a mode of self-abandonment and judging myself when I asked to have wants and needs. I wish I could go on and on. 

I just wanted to say thank you because I just think your resonance for me has been miraculous.
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- Linda
Six days in to this practice, I notice that I am more conscious of my emotionally charged thoughts. I am talking myself through those little challenges instead of just reacting. I’m trying to give myself compassion instead of deciding that I ‘should’ or ‘shouldn’t’ feel (whatever). Caring acceptance is what I’m going for!
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- Judy
Only one more day of this amazing course to go and I amaze myself that I have not missed a day. 

I have got so much from it. 

Some amazing synchronous events happening but the best thing is I am feeling so much better about me and I am allowing myself to be vulnerable. I am leadning to say no – still hard at times. There is always more to do. 

My copy of your book Fearless Living has arrived so can’t wait to get into that.
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- Frances
I’m really enjoying and appreciating these 21 Days of Love…. and the webinars are absolutely amazing and tremendously helpful. 

Thank you Rhonda!! 

On Day 13 today and really loved this from the Daily Love Note: “To feel secure from the inside out that is the real gift of self-love.” One of my self-love moments from the Love Jar is going for massages.
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- Elizabeth
Thanks You Rhonda for teaching us how to love ourselves! 

And though I am more aware, I know I have just planted the seed to self-love. I learned that I will not always have that loving feeling or that I have to be perfect, but I am committed to loving myself no matter what, because I AM deserving of love. The real me is good enough … no more twisting myself into a pretzel for love. 

Please, continue to do what you do. You are a guiding light and an inspiration to all of us!!
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- Belinda
I really liked my lesson today….my love jar is filling up! It made me look at the most simple jester of kindness/love, strangers waving or smiling at me, it changed my perspective from, feeling unappreciated and entitled to….being in a grateful state of mind. 

It is very blissful.
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- Andrea
I love the new ideas I get each day. Today to shift my energy while recovering from yet another break-up is : I am resonating with my ideal lover. It feels soooooo good.
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- Romy
Rhonda, I love how you give us a whole different way of thinking that just makes so much sense! 

Thanks to you, I’m starting to say “I’m willing to forgive you” to myself before I meet people. 

It really helps to calm me down and remind me that even if they’re grumpy it doesn’t have to be personal to me.

Here’s what you’ll receive

Your Very Own Lovebook

We’ve created a LOVE BOOK just for YOU! We’ve taken the daily emails and turned them into an easy-access digital companion for your daily exercises.

This rich journal includes:

  • Integrative exercises to build your capacity for self-love
  • Daily principles for opening to self-care and self-acceptance
  • Inspiring Love Notes to open your heart and fill your love tank
  • Daily practices to deepen and apply the lessons in every area of your life.

As you move through the LOVE BOOK, not only will you be creating a journal of your own self-love journey — you’ll have a roadmap to return to anytime you need a love boost (and update as your journey deepens!).

Love on the Go

Access 21 Days of Self-Love in our brand new app! Download and take Rhonda’s teachings with you wherever you go. Listen while you walk, meditate, journal, commute, and more.

Video Modules

In-depth videos for each of our four modules. Follow along with past students as they get their questions answered. You’ll learn from their experiences.

Transcripts of the Entire Course

Research says that the best way to learn is to read along while you’re watching a video. That’s why you’ll get access to the transcripts of all four modules. Plus, it’s a great way to refer to the material anytime you need a refresher.

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You won’t find love until you love yourself first! Recharge your Love Tank in Just 21 Days! Start the course today!


Total value: $497

Recharge your Love Tank in just 21 days! Your course includes:

  • Your personal LOVE BOOK, your rich guide to 21 Days of Self-Love
  • Love on the Go! Access 21 Days of Self-Love in our brand new app
  • Integrative exercises to build your capacity for self-love
  • Daily principles for opening to self-care and self-acceptance
  • Inspiring Love Notes to open your heart and fill your love tank
  • Daily practices to deepen and apply the lessons in every area of your life.
  • Downloadable teachings to listen while you walk, meditate, journal, commute & more
  • In-depth videos for each module
  • Transcripts of the ENTIRE course to read along, highlight your favorite insights & more
Yes! I want Lifetime Access to 21 Days of Self-Love! (Course Only) 

Total value: $13,208

Here’s what you’ll receive:

  • A full Fearless You membership with an all-access pass to weekly LIVE teachings, Q&As, circles, and more
  • The entire 21 Days of Self-Love course
  • Three Private, 1:1 Coaching Sessions with your own Certified Fearless Living Coach
  • Access ALL 12 of Rhonda’s premium online courses ($6,504 value)
  • Access to Quick-Win Mini-Courses and Master Classes ($1,188 value)
  • New LIVE topic trainings each month with Rhonda to help you live fearlessly ($1,000 value)
  • Monthly Q&A Calls with Rhonda ($1,000 value)
  • Monthly “get-it-done" and reflection classes with a Certified Fearless Living Life Coach ($400 value)
  • Fearless Living “Deep-Dive” trainings from Fearless Living Coaches ($400)
  • Fearless Living Toolkits — exercises Rhonda gives to her VIP clients to help you master fear ($997 value)
  • Love Notes from Rhonda — daily inspirational messages that feel like a hug ($1111)
  • Access to the entire Fearless You Community
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Who is this Course for?
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If you find yourself feeling burned out and unappreciated, getting upset with yourself (and others) way too often, or aren’t sure how to respect yourself without the fear of rejection popping up, 21 Days of Self Love is the answer. 

It’s designed to show you how to love yourself even if those around you are trying to take advantage of you or you don’t think you deserve to be loved . 

You’ll not only learn how to fill up your Love Tank to feel centered and at peace but you’ll be able to give and receive love from an authentic place. 

And don’t worry, I will guide you with a gentle hand and compassionate style while giving you the full court press putting you into action almost immediately. 

Folks have felt loved up after the first class.
How do I know this will solve my (problem)?
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This comes down to trust doesn’t it? 

If you are still reading this page, I bet you trust me and want me to convince you that I am trustworthy. I hope I’ve done that with the honest reviews on this page and scattered throughout the website plus the videos sharing who I am and my journey. 

But past that, this is a decision you have to make on your own. You have to make the decision to trust me to guide you on this journey of self love. Thousands of others have yet this decision is yours and yours alone.
Do I have to do 21 Days in a row? What if I miss a day?
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No problem. There’s actually no such thing as getting behind because you’re in charge of the pace. 

Even though the intention of this Course is 21 Lessons in 21 days, we recognize that just like building your physical muscles, you may need a day or two of rest and integration during the next 21 days. If you need it, take it and then, jump back in. 

The more you stay focused on practicing each Love Lesson, the more you’ll get out of the Course. So go ahead, take 24 days or even 30 days…just keep going no matter what.
Can I take a break if I need to?
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Of course. A program is no good if you are overwhelmed and find yourself beating yourself up. Self-care is vital so do it at your own pace while giving yourself a nudge!

Can I share this program with a family member?
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It’s important that each person who’s enrolled in the 21 Days of Self Love program makes a conscious decision to join and invest in their own growth. 

Feel free to share your results with the people you love but encourage them to invest in themselves. 

There is nothing that can replace a decision that says “YES I am ready to love myself” like a sign up for a class that can truly make a difference.
How do I get access to the Lovebook?
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Once you gain access to the course, look under the tab "Materials." You'll find it right there. 

Be sure to download it so you have it on your computer or feel free to print it so you can have it right beside you while watching or listening to a module.

Should I tell my therapist I'm doing this program?
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If that supports you, sure. More therapists refer clients to me than coaches, speakers, and authors combined. They know my stuff works, and they have your best interest at heart. So yes, please do.

I have clients who actually share their daily homework with their therapists. I say, share away. The more support you have on your journey, the better.

Why should I use this program and not someone else’s?
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Because I know what it feels like to NOT love myself. I was confused by the concept of self love for decades. I thought saying it was enough. Au contraire. Saying it and believing it, and then, living it are vastly different. I know this self love terrain well.

And, of course, I could also throw out a list of amazing things about myself, like how I overcame a twenty-year horror story of my own or how I’ve met Oprah twice, or I could tell you about the women’s lives I’ve changed in the Starting Over house that aired every day for three years on NBC. But come on, that isn’t important, right?

It doesn’t matter really if Good Housekeeping has done a profile on me or I have been on The Today Show and blah blah blah, or my gosh darn Emmy win. What does matter is that you’re still reading this.

You want me to convince you to join my program, convince you that you are worth giving the gift of self love to. But I’m not going to. YOU have to decide this one. Plus, there’s a 7 Day Guarantee, or you get all your money back. All you have to do is show you tried by turning in the completed daily Love Lessons. So frankly, you got nothing to lose but that darn ol’ fear of yours.

What’s at risk if I don’t order right now?
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Your self respect. Your self worth. Your ability to give and receive love.

Let’s face it, you wouldn’t be here if this problem hadn’t been going on for a while so how long do you want it to last?

This is what is true: I believe in you.

And you have to decide to believe that I can get you to the other side. I’ve been coaching for over two decades and have thousands of people raising their hand saying ” This works.”

So what’s at risk if you don’t? What’s at risk is that the problems that come from refusing to love yourself are just going to get bigger, and you’re gonna feel like you are drowning in it. Don’t go there. Grab my hand. Let’s do this.

What is intimidating about doing what you’re asking me to do?
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First thing that should scare the pants off you is that it is 21 days focused on loving YOU. 21 days of lessons. 21 days of growing. 21 days of action. That is intimidating for so many people because they haven’t ever really done one thing for themselves for 21 days.

But you know what I’m about to say: Change can’t happen unless you invest in yourself for a long enough period of time for it to take hold.

So yes, 21 days can seem like an eternity but that’s why ultimately you take the Course at your own pace plus you have the coach's support and the community group and me right here. You won’t be alone so you won’t feel alone. We’ve got you.

How can you remove the intimidation for me?
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This is why support is so important to me.

I know what it’s like to be out there on your own swimming in deep water and trying to get to shore. I lived that way for 20 years, so I get it. I do.

That’s why I want you to watch the video or listen to the audio each day and grab the lesson of the day.  You don’t have to go a day without support. And don’t forget…what does all the support add up to? Integrating these new tools of self love into your life. They won’t do you any good if you don’t use them every day.

I would rather save my breath than waste your time so if I am teaching it, it’s for a reason.

What happens when I order (list the steps)?
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Once you order, you will receive a Welcome email giving you access to the Fearless You portal where 21 Days of Self Love lives. It will contain your user name and password, if you're not already a member of Fearless You. If you are, your current user and password will work just fine.

How are the materials delivered?
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For your convenience, everything is inside the Fearless You portal so you can go there at any time to watch videos, listen to the audio, grab the Lovebook, and access anything else that is included in the course. 

How long do I have access to stuff?
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21 Days of Self Love is a course inside the Fearless You portal. If you choose to purchase the course solo, you have access to it for life inside the portal.

If you get the course as a member of Fearless You, it's like a gym membership; You have unlimited access as long as you are a member. If you cancel, your membership is disabled at the end of the last month you paid for, and you will no longer be able to log in to the membership site. 

Can I reach out to someone before ordering, if so how?
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Sure. Contact [email protected] - You’ll find our Customer Happiness Team ready and waiting to support you with any and all of your questions. Because our team has access to the Courses we offer, they know this Course inside and out. You can ask them anything.

How much time will I have to invest?
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If you watch the video or listen to the audio each week, that’s an hour or two investment per week. Plus a few minutes each day reading your Topic of the Day and inspirational Love Note. Some days you will probably want to write some things down on your Daily Love Lesson Worksheets. How long you spend is up to you.

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Course Creator, Rhonda Britten

Rhonda Britten – Emmy Award-winner, Repeat Oprah guest – has changed lives in over 600 episodes of reality television including her hit daytime reality show, Starting Over, is the author of four bestsellers, including her seminal work, Fearless Living, and is the Founder of the Fearless Living Institute, home of the Ivy League of Life Coaching Training.

Named “America’s Favorite Life Coach,” she brings the neuroscience of fear down to earth, giving you a path out of “not being good enough” using the “Wheels” technology she developed that saved her own life.

She's been read, heard, and watched by millions, coached tens of thousands of clients, trained hundreds of coaches, and now wants to share all she knows with you!

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